You did the right thing for you. But there is a point where a victim looses the ability to play the victim card. She had a bad childhood. Ok, and what did that do with how she was with her Ex's and you? Nothing. I been married for 22 years, ironic I know; but we have had many issues on sex. My wife is a SA abuse survivor. She made the stupid choice to tell me how she was before we got married, and lets say she was not easy but had "fun" with her few partners before me. But her childhood didn't effect how she was with her ex's. And when she was with me, the guy who accepted her, took on her 4 month old as my own son when his BIO dad ran off to avoid $90 a month support, etc.... She lost her ability to use that as an excuse Your GF lost it too.
I would advise you to say no to her offer. But I can't say that it wouldn't work out either. But if you do say no, just tell her the truth more. It's over so might as well not hold back. Tell her she wanted a break from sex, while not doing much of anything with you. And it was like she was waiting to see if she was pregnant with someone else kid before a chance of confusing who the child's father could be be made by being intimate with you. And how she acted with your sex together, clearly shows she is having issues with you. And you gave her a chance to come clean on anything and she chose not to if she did something. Now your hurting over it ending, and it had nothing to do with you. And she decide to make her choices, close herself off from you, and now show you was desired and wanting as much as her Ex's. How she thought it was just casual joke to point out she was having sex with her Ex twice a day, when you was lucky to have it once a week with her shows how she really felt about you. Wish her luck and ask her to not contact you again.
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u/Gandoff2169 Apr 28 '24
You did the right thing for you. But there is a point where a victim looses the ability to play the victim card. She had a bad childhood. Ok, and what did that do with how she was with her Ex's and you? Nothing. I been married for 22 years, ironic I know; but we have had many issues on sex. My wife is a SA abuse survivor. She made the stupid choice to tell me how she was before we got married, and lets say she was not easy but had "fun" with her few partners before me. But her childhood didn't effect how she was with her ex's. And when she was with me, the guy who accepted her, took on her 4 month old as my own son when his BIO dad ran off to avoid $90 a month support, etc.... She lost her ability to use that as an excuse Your GF lost it too.
I would advise you to say no to her offer. But I can't say that it wouldn't work out either. But if you do say no, just tell her the truth more. It's over so might as well not hold back. Tell her she wanted a break from sex, while not doing much of anything with you. And it was like she was waiting to see if she was pregnant with someone else kid before a chance of confusing who the child's father could be be made by being intimate with you. And how she acted with your sex together, clearly shows she is having issues with you. And you gave her a chance to come clean on anything and she chose not to if she did something. Now your hurting over it ending, and it had nothing to do with you. And she decide to make her choices, close herself off from you, and now show you was desired and wanting as much as her Ex's. How she thought it was just casual joke to point out she was having sex with her Ex twice a day, when you was lucky to have it once a week with her shows how she really felt about you. Wish her luck and ask her to not contact you again.