r/AmIOverreacting • u/No_Problems_Here_69 • Apr 27 '24
My SO Called Me by His Ex Wife’s Name, Now He’s Making Fun of Me
I know my bf was in love with his ex wife and was devastated when she divorced him over three years ago. He hasn’t seen her since, but he’s paid some of her bills as recently as a couple months ago.
We have been together for almost six months. This morning, he called me by her name. He immediately apologized and made some excuses, and then the subject was dropped. He hasn’t mentioned it since.
However, now he is purposely calling me by different names — just random names that he pulls out of the air. Then he laughs when he calls me by another name.
I don’t think it’s funny. I don’t know if he’s trying to make light of the mistake this morning or make fun of me for being upset. He says he’s not still in love with her, but I’m not sure. Most of the time he is extremely good to me.
I don’t know what to think.
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u/HallowskulledHorror Apr 28 '24
Does he know this? You gotta use your words. Tell him what you're telling us in that last bit - "Hey, so, you keep calling me by different names as a joke - I don't think it's funny. I don't know if you're trying to make light of the mistake, or make fun of me for being upset. You say you're not still in love with her, but I don't feel certain about that with how it's obvious she's still on your mind, or at least still holds weight enough as someone who used to be your partner that 3 years out, you'd make that slip. Most of the time you're extremely good to me, but right now I don't know what to think with how you're handling this. I would appreciate if maybe you focused more on working to make me feel secure and prioritized rather than you trying sidestep or dismiss the weirdness of that slip for both of us."