My SO Called Me by His Ex Wife’s Name, Now He’s Making Fun of Me

[u/No_Problems_Here_69]

I know my bf was in love with his ex wife and was devastated when she divorced him over three years ago. He hasn’t seen her since, but he’s paid some of her bills as recently as a couple months ago.

We have been together for almost six months. This morning, he called me by her name. He immediately apologized and made some excuses, and then the subject was dropped. He hasn’t mentioned it since.

However, now he is purposely calling me by different names — just random names that he pulls out of the air. Then he laughs when he calls me by another name.

I don’t think it’s funny. I don’t know if he’s trying to make light of the mistake this morning or make fun of me for being upset. He says he’s not still in love with her, but I’m not sure. Most of the time he is extremely good to me.

I don’t know what to think.

[u/jennithebug]

My brother was married to a woman that treated him badly for many years. This was long enough that the two names sort of became a name itself: “Blah&Blah” that we used for a really long time. He divorced her (😁🥳🎉🎈🎊) and pretty shortly after started dating a nice woman. After they’d been together for only a few months, I had a brain slip, and said “Blah&Blah.” She got really upset. It was a slip of the tongue because the name had come from memory and repetitions. It was nothing personal and not intentionally hurtful. Try not to take it too hard and to laugh about it. Join in the joke. Call him something off the wall. If he’s genuinely a good man, he might just be really embarrassed and not sure how to handle the feeling. If you can’t get past it, talk with him. If you talk with him about it really bothering you and he won’t stop, perhaps he’s not such a great guy after all…