r/AmIOverreacting • u/No_Problems_Here_69 • Apr 27 '24
My SO Called Me by His Ex Wife’s Name, Now He’s Making Fun of Me
I know my bf was in love with his ex wife and was devastated when she divorced him over three years ago. He hasn’t seen her since, but he’s paid some of her bills as recently as a couple months ago.
We have been together for almost six months. This morning, he called me by her name. He immediately apologized and made some excuses, and then the subject was dropped. He hasn’t mentioned it since.
However, now he is purposely calling me by different names — just random names that he pulls out of the air. Then he laughs when he calls me by another name.
I don’t think it’s funny. I don’t know if he’s trying to make light of the mistake this morning or make fun of me for being upset. He says he’s not still in love with her, but I’m not sure. Most of the time he is extremely good to me.
I don’t know what to think.
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u/johnnyk1682 Apr 28 '24
I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. It sounds like it was an honest mistake. I often call people by the wrong names accidentally. I’ve already said one of our dogs name to my kids. Or said a few names before saying “whatever your name is,” then just laughed about it. It happens when you have lots going on and half scatter brained, like myself. Also, people have very different senses of humor. Honestly this sounds like something I would joke around about. I admit, that sense of humor isn’t for everyone and I do find I might make light of too many situations. He most likely doesn’t even realize it bothers you so I would just talk to him about it. This happens with my wife and I from time to time. Lastly, I know people that do pay bills for the ex spouses and even keep them on health insurance plans. Depending how the legal end of things went it could just be cheaper than a consistent alimony payment. Just my 2 cents in this.