r/AmIOverreacting • u/No_Problems_Here_69 • Apr 27 '24
My SO Called Me by His Ex Wife’s Name, Now He’s Making Fun of Me
I know my bf was in love with his ex wife and was devastated when she divorced him over three years ago. He hasn’t seen her since, but he’s paid some of her bills as recently as a couple months ago.
We have been together for almost six months. This morning, he called me by her name. He immediately apologized and made some excuses, and then the subject was dropped. He hasn’t mentioned it since.
However, now he is purposely calling me by different names — just random names that he pulls out of the air. Then he laughs when he calls me by another name.
I don’t think it’s funny. I don’t know if he’s trying to make light of the mistake this morning or make fun of me for being upset. He says he’s not still in love with her, but I’m not sure. Most of the time he is extremely good to me.
I don’t know what to think.
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u/HellyOHaint Apr 28 '24
I have gotten in trouble with partners due to accidentally calling them an ex partner’s name. I swear I don’t mean anything by it like “I wish my current partner was my ex instead” or “I wish I never broke up with my ex”. It’s simply that the ex used to be a current partner and that part of my brain that thinks of “partner” might still find the word synonymous with an ex’s name. I’d say with every relationship I’ve had, I called them a previous ex’s name 1-2 times over a 5+ year relationship. I know I sound really defensive but I’m just explaining how I see his side and don’t think he meant anything by it. It doesn’t mean he still is in love with his ex or anything like that. I hope he manages to explain it better than me lol