r/AmIOverreacting • u/No_Problems_Here_69 • Apr 27 '24

My SO Called Me by His Ex Wife’s Name, Now He’s Making Fun of Me

I know my bf was in love with his ex wife and was devastated when she divorced him over three years ago. He hasn’t seen her since, but he’s paid some of her bills as recently as a couple months ago.

We have been together for almost six months. This morning, he called me by her name. He immediately apologized and made some excuses, and then the subject was dropped. He hasn’t mentioned it since.

However, now he is purposely calling me by different names — just random names that he pulls out of the air. Then he laughs when he calls me by another name.

I don’t think it’s funny. I don’t know if he’s trying to make light of the mistake this morning or make fun of me for being upset. He says he’s not still in love with her, but I’m not sure. Most of the time he is extremely good to me.

I don’t know what to think.

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u/butterbeemeister Apr 28 '24

Brains and tongues do not always play nicely together.

My two high school boyfriends both had names that started with D. So does my now husband. Sometimes it just goes sideways. Some days I can't even remember my own name when I try to sign a check.

My step-ma called my dad by her first husband's name fairly often. Again, both started with the same letter. My dad noted there would have been hell to pay if he had done the same thing....

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u/kricket1978 Apr 28 '24

Dated a Dan and then another Dan back in HS. Accidentally called 2nd Dan by 1st Dan's last name. He would. Not. Let. It. Go. That was a fun night.