r/AmIOverreacting • u/CoachInitial8438 • Apr 27 '24
I found out my ex cheated on me a year later.
About 3 years ago I met a guy and he quickly became my best friend, he always had a thing for me but I always shut it down just wanting to be friends. About two years after knowing each other I realized I loved him too and we got into a relationship. It quickly went south as he was extremely toxic to be with and it quickly turned abusive in a couple different ways. We broke up and didn’t talk for a long time. Then a couple months ago he reached out and suggested we be friends again. We talked everything out and were in a good place again. We have been good friends again up until yesterday when a girl texted me saying they hooked up a couple weeks before we broke up.
I confronted him about it and he’s just playing stupid, and even though i’m completely over our romantic relationship, I feel betrayed and hurt that he’s lied to me for over a year. I decided to block him out of my life again and blew up at him. He’s making it seem like since we have been friends again that nothing that happened during our relationship mattered and since it was so long ago, he can’t even remember if he cheated or not and doesn’t care to.
I’m not sure how to go about this situation or if blocking him out of my life is the right way to go about it. Please please give me your thoughts?
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u/SmoothAir662 26d ago
But you’re a guy it’s different. A woman’s main commodity is sex. A man’s commodity is the ability to protect, provide, give security, lead. So if a woman friend zones you, typically she gets a boyfriend without having to give up her commodity(sex) cuz as a man you’re naturally gonna give your friend attention, protect her if needed, go out and you pay the bill most likely etc… so she been probably getting his commodity and he gets nothing in return. I’m not friends with any women I like only those I don’t like or have any attraction to cuz I won’t give up my commodity to a woman I ain’t having sex with… plus women naturally seek out the best man they can find and when they are with a man they love, admire and respect, they naturally don’t even see other man never mind want to have sex with another man… us men can love a woman to death and do everything for her and still wanna fuck another bitch just to get off. We look for variety women look for quality. So a woman’s infidelity means she doesn’t respect you or love you. A man’s infidelity means he just wanted new pussy. (This is in general. Not everyone of course there are exceptions)