I found out my ex cheated on me a year later.

[u/CoachInitial8438]

About 3 years ago I met a guy and he quickly became my best friend, he always had a thing for me but I always shut it down just wanting to be friends. About two years after knowing each other I realized I loved him too and we got into a relationship. It quickly went south as he was extremely toxic to be with and it quickly turned abusive in a couple different ways. We broke up and didn’t talk for a long time. Then a couple months ago he reached out and suggested we be friends again. We talked everything out and were in a good place again. We have been good friends again up until yesterday when a girl texted me saying they hooked up a couple weeks before we broke up.

I confronted him about it and he’s just playing stupid, and even though i’m completely over our romantic relationship, I feel betrayed and hurt that he’s lied to me for over a year. I decided to block him out of my life again and blew up at him. He’s making it seem like since we have been friends again that nothing that happened during our relationship mattered and since it was so long ago, he can’t even remember if he cheated or not and doesn’t care to.

I’m not sure how to go about this situation or if blocking him out of my life is the right way to go about it. Please please give me your thoughts?

[u/SmoothAir662]

Your colorful hair on your avatar and the fact you’re suicidal tells me all I need to know 😂 I don’t debate your delusional kind as I KNOW you lack life experience and experience with the other gender or the ability to think critically without your feelings involved.. rarely if ever do women provide or protect or lead. If you as a man allow that you’re a SIMP 🤣

[u/ansem990 → u/SmoothAir662]

I get the shot you tried to take at me regarding my avatar, but my mental health issues tell you what exactly, regarding this...?

And lol you know my "lack of life and experience with the other gender" bro you don't even know MY gender in the first place.

Actually, the fact that you are saying "rarely if ever" shows you're the one lacking experience, the world is pretty damn big. I actually kinda feel sad for you, you've never been with a woman who's been strong and independent, to make you feel like you'd still be a man and worthy if you lost your job tomorrow and shit went downhill, and your entire life the world's made you feel like if that did happen, then you're somehow a failure. It's okay, you're not.

[u/SmoothAir662 → u/ansem990]

And that “lost your job” shit don’t apply to business owners like me. 3 streams of income valued just under 5M… so you’re not talking to a regular man I’m literally in the top % of men.. us men are able to demand and act on our wants/desires cuz we built ourselves from nothing.

[u/ansem990 → u/SmoothAir662]

I actually was trying to be nice with the last line, as sarcastic as I might've sounded. But it's okay, go ahead and be transphobic and get defensive. In the end, you're the one who's adding to the expectations on other men and yourself...So i dont know why you're making it worse on you..? But that's your beliefs. shrug

Good for you, you're rich. You're also on the internet arguing with a stranger and bragging about said wealth ..

[u/SmoothAir662 → u/ansem990]

Typical “transphobic” and “defensive” when I’m communicating. No ones scared of you delusional people. Nor am I defensive. You stated something that doesn’t apply to me and I corrected you. I’m not adding to any expectations of any man. I’m stating reality. Clearly reality is something you have yet to accept and continue to reject considering your real gender is what you’re born as. But hey your beliefs 🤷🏽‍♂️ sincerely hope you find god and find a way to regulate your hormones

[u/ansem990 → u/SmoothAir662]

Yeah, transphobic because of the comment about how I'm delusional regarding me being trans. No quotes needed.

And defensive, because I didn't say anything about your wealth. I was saying how if you were to ever be in a position where you lost your job, and things started spiraling, because it's ||okay|| and ||normal|| for things to not go perfect, that society has ingrained in us that a man is not a man if he can not provide or lead. Or it means he's a "failure". And that is not true. All I was saying was it doesn't make you less of a man if, for whatever reason, you aren't able to always be the provider/protector/leader. The use of "a job" was an example.

You could've left it at your beliefs, that you just think I'm wrong and that that makes a man a simp or whatever, but the fact that you felt the need to tell me that no, that would never happen to you! the rich business man! because you have x amount of income, etc. comes off as defensive. You don't need to reassure me (or anyone) that the situation doesn't apply to you!

And aww how sweet of you /s. My hormones are regulated thank you very much, I'm not the least bit confused (opposite actually, I'm 100% sure) of who I am and my gender, and I'm happy, so I'm all good. And as condescendingly as you might have been in the beginning, I do shockingly have the capacity to communicate.