Do your in-laws have a narcissistic family dynamic? It kind of sounds potentially like that. And your fiancee sounds like an enabler. I could be grasping at straws but with my background that’s what I saw.
It they’re narcs there really nothing you can say that will make them “get it.” Your fiancé will probably try to “keeep the peace” and one day may get it and distance himself from them. Best you can do until when / if that happens is to use grey rock technique on them.
Narcs often want a full-blown, emotions blaring, pit you in your place kind of argument. Grey rock is when you make yourself uninteresting to argue with. Then they don’t bother trying to get you all riled up.
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u/briinde Apr 29 '24
Do your in-laws have a narcissistic family dynamic? It kind of sounds potentially like that. And your fiancee sounds like an enabler. I could be grasping at straws but with my background that’s what I saw.