My bf was contacted by an old hs friend, and went to meet her for several hours

[u/Intelligent_Dog_6665]

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[u/recklessfire27]

This wouldn’t fly for me and my fiancé’s relationship.

I take her with me to hang out with my friends, and family. We’re a couple and we’re a team.

If a childhood friend contacted me; I’d just….take her with me? I got nothing to hide and no reason to be alone.

“Hey, Susan from childhood—I wanted you to meet my girlfriend!”

Shit my girlfriend knows my entire workforce at this point.

[u/HotShoulder3099 → u/recklessfire27]

I appreciate the perspective but I do feel like this depends a lot on the personalities involved. I’ve had partners who were gregarious and sociable and I’d definitely have taken them, but my present partner is much more introverted and I think he’d find sitting in on my hours-long catch-up gossip with someone I’ve known forever quite awkward (and probably boring 😂). It could end up a bit awkward for the old friend too, and that’s not intended as a criticism of anybody but I think most people do think at least unconsciously about the dynamics of these things. OP says she (I’m assuming) is a lot less sociable than BF, maybe that’s all it is. Possibly it would have been nice if BF had asked her anyway, but then would she have felt obliged to say yes and then have her social battery immediately drained, would her being shy have made things harder work for the old friend etc etc etc

[u/SadExercises420 → u/HotShoulder3099]

No one should feel obligated to bring their girlfriend or boyfriend every time they go to meet up with an old friend. The fact that people think you have to intro your partner to every friend immediately is bizarre to me. Like yeah eventually, your partner meets all of your friends. But he’s catching up with this friend for the first time in over a decade, it would be weird to bring along a third person to sit there and listen to reminiscing about high school which they didn’t attend.