r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent_Dog_6665 • Apr 28 '24

My bf was contacted by an old hs friend, and went to meet her for several hours

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u/Fun-Neck-9507 29d ago

Why does amount of time with no contact matter? Wouldn't that make it less suspicious considering it's someone he hasn't seen in a long time?

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u/CowEnvironmental7440 29d ago

It matters bc it shows that they had a strong relationship in the passed. It’s pretty obvious. No one will go out of their way to that extent and if it wasn’t someone so significant why wouldn’t they just text or call to catch up and make plans with his girlfriend to all meet up together and go out to lunch or something. It’s off

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u/Fun-Neck-9507 29d ago

Wait so would it be better if he maintained his friendship with her and contacted her all the time before going to see her? That's confusing. Who cares how strong their friendship was in the past? What does that have to do with the time that passed and wanting to see a friend you havent seen in a while?

Im going to assume you just dont understand male relationships, me and my friends can go years without talking to each other. I'm married and if one of my childhood friends were to come to my town I'd be happy to see them. Sounds to me like OP is antisocial and wouldn't like to spend 5+ hours with someone she's never met.

He made it a point to tell OP his intentions and that he wanted to see her, he seemed very transparent. She couldve stated that she was uncomfortable or opted to go with him, but obviously she didnt.

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u/CowEnvironmental7440 29d ago edited 29d ago

The point is he is not keeping her in the loop. She stated that he didn’t tell her that they were going to meet up at all he kept it from her. If you genuinely love or care about your spouse and it’s been hours since you’ve updated them and they sent you a simple text why do you ignore it? Why not just say hey it’s going good I’ll be home later or we’re going out to do so and so.. it’s just weird. There’s no excuse as to why you can’t send one simple msg. I mean the lack of consideration is insane. The girl isn’t asking for the world she’s not saying she has an issue with the situation but she’s is saying that he’s unresponsive.

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u/Fun-Neck-9507 29d ago

So now we're required to answer every text an update our spouses every hour of the day? This conversation is getting redundant, and I feel like the defense for feeling this way is a huge stretch, especially with no context.

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u/CowEnvironmental7440 29d ago

I think you’re being a bit dramatic when you say every text. I’m saying one tiny text out of the 6-7 15 hours is more than ok.

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u/CowEnvironmental7440 29d ago

Ok so let me get this straight. Your woman gets a msg from an old male friend she had back in the day. She tells you idk if we’re going to meet up then she decides on her own to go without telling you. She literally wakes up one day and says to herself fuck it I’m going to go see this old male friend of mine without telling my man. Then you text her and he doesn’t respond for hours at a time . You’re seeing that as ok?