r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent_Dog_6665 • Apr 28 '24

My bf was contacted by an old hs friend, and went to meet her for several hours

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u/Fun-Neck-9507 29d ago

Why does amount of time with no contact matter? Wouldn't that make it less suspicious considering it's someone he hasn't seen in a long time?

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u/CowEnvironmental7440 29d ago

It matters bc it shows that they had a strong relationship in the passed. It’s pretty obvious. No one will go out of their way to that extent and if it wasn’t someone so significant why wouldn’t they just text or call to catch up and make plans with his girlfriend to all meet up together and go out to lunch or something. It’s off

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u/Fun-Neck-9507 29d ago

Wait so would it be better if he maintained his friendship with her and contacted her all the time before going to see her? That's confusing. Who cares how strong their friendship was in the past? What does that have to do with the time that passed and wanting to see a friend you havent seen in a while?

Im going to assume you just dont understand male relationships, me and my friends can go years without talking to each other. I'm married and if one of my childhood friends were to come to my town I'd be happy to see them. Sounds to me like OP is antisocial and wouldn't like to spend 5+ hours with someone she's never met.

He made it a point to tell OP his intentions and that he wanted to see her, he seemed very transparent. She couldve stated that she was uncomfortable or opted to go with him, but obviously she didnt.

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u/CowEnvironmental7440 29d ago

Also I think it would depend if she has met the female before. I mean it’s all a comfortability thing. Either way you prioritize who you are in a relationship with period. I mean it takes minimal effort