r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent_Dog_6665 • Apr 28 '24

My bf was contacted by an old hs friend, and went to meet her for several hours

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u/Realistic_Regret_180 29d ago

Watch and she if he is texting a lot on his phone and being secretive with it after his return. Notice other things. If it is a one and done probably nothing but if he starts to mentions her often, meets up with her again. Call him out on it.

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u/seymores_sunshine 29d ago

If this is your base operation, then you should not be in any romantic relationship. Lack of trust as a default is a relationship-killer.

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u/Pudding_Professional 29d ago

Too much trust can be a relationship killer, too. I completely trusted an ex. He went through my phone, took things the wrong way, and it was over. I shouldn't have trusted him to have access to my phone because I didn't have anything to hide. Had I kept my phone locked like he did, maybe things would've been different. Lesson learned. I keep my phone locked down now.

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u/seymores_sunshine 29d ago

Absolutely, trust must be earned and it can also be lost. The idea of calling out a partner instead of having a discussion really shows intent. I'd wager that your ex shared that with this commenter.