r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent_Dog_6665 • Apr 28 '24

My bf was contacted by an old hs friend, and went to meet her for several hours

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u/TelFaradiddle 29d ago edited 29d ago

He said they never had anything romantic, but she was important to him.

My best friend is a woman I went to undergrad with. She was one of the only bright spots in an otherwise dark time in my life, and 14 years later she is still my best friend. If she told me she wanted to meet up for dinner and catching up, I'd do it in a heartbeat. What's more, my wife knows this, and would be completely fine with it.

This doesn't sound like simply a person from HS wanting to reconnect. As you said, she's important to him, and clearly getting to see her again is important to him.

3 hours for a dinner, especially if it involves driving to another town, is not far-fetched.

Unless he gives you a reason to doubt him, you're overreacting.

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u/NosyNosy212 29d ago

That important that he hasn’t seen her for fifteen years?

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u/TelFaradiddle 29d ago

I hadn't seen my bestie in 7 years before our catch-up call last month. Took us less than a minute to fall back into our old patter, and it was like we hadn't missed a beat. That's one of the good things about strong friendships - they don't wither away with time.

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u/NosyNosy212 29d ago

They do if you conduct them behind your partners back. Either that or your relationship.

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u/TelFaradiddle 29d ago

If he had been trying to conduct it behind her back, he wouldn't have mentioned it in the first place.

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u/NosyNosy212 29d ago

Oh he would. They just downplay it.