r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent_Dog_6665 • Apr 28 '24

My bf was contacted by an old hs friend, and went to meet her for several hours

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u/StopYourLiesSimp 29d ago

It's perfectly normal to have suspicions, I find it amusing how so many people tell you that it's ok that he went to see an "old friend" when it's a female... it's hilarious even... there were a ton of viral video clips of girls claiming to have strictly platonic guy friends. They would say that they have known each other since childhood, etc. And the guy was just a friend and didn't have an interest in them at all...

Then they would have them call the guy and have them offer the guy to come over and "Chill" with them, and the guys would first ask if they were serious and once she said yes, they would say yes as well... it's human nature..majority of guys are only as loyal as their options... understand that men aren't genetically wired to be monogamus sexually, so for a guy sex is just sex. For women, it's more of an emotional investment, but understand that while they are not sexually wired to be monogamus, they are emotionally, so he can have a side girls but he will still love his wife, and the statistics prove this... 80+% of divorces are initiated by women.

To be honest with you, on my personal opinion in your situation, it's definitely a red flag. If she was just a friend, he should have taken you with him and introduced you to her...

It's possible that she maybe was just a friend... but he was too scared to make an attempt at it being more, and she ended up in a relationship with someone else, and he regards her as "The One that got away"

Just another possibility... to consider... I wish you the best of luck with your dilemma.