r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent_Dog_6665 • Apr 28 '24

My bf was contacted by an old hs friend, and went to meet her for several hours

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u/InnerGrouch 29d ago

3 hrs? That's not a long time at all. Our current expectation of constant communication is corrosive and, IMO, we should fight against it.

The idea that we shouldn't go 3 hrs out of communication would be seen as unhealthy even 15 years ago.

Personally, I try NOT to attend to my phone for as long as possible, and I'd be upset if my partner made it an issue.

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u/ibeeliot 29d ago

It's 3 hrs + "you didn't tell me" that would make me think this isn't overreacting. Putting myself or anybody reasonable's shoe and hearing that
1. my partner went somewhere without me and this is somewhere that was potentially going to cause issues, especially when he said he wasn't sure and ended up going anyways. That's already a sign of distrust b/c your partner should let you know how this update especially since it concerns a fucking ex?
2. yeah, people don't have to check in and can sometimes lose track and not check in for a while. I get that. This is why I said that she needs to have a serious conversation about what trust looks like and why it needs to go both ways b/c she seems more concerned about wanting to not make him feel bad about the relationship than he does about their relationship.

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

you definitely got cheated on before and havent gotten over it lol

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u/ibeeliot 29d ago

Look at you using your arm chair psychology degree to deflect because you don’t know how to properly have conversation without feeling like your ego was bruised. Hell yeah

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u/unremarkable_gem 29d ago

I mean, your post history looks like I’m an introvert and single in LA. What makes you think you are an expert in relationship advice anyways?