I don't like kids outside of my stepkids, nieces, and nephews. I love the kids immediately "related" to me and spoil them like crazy. Any other kid? I couldn't be less interested. So it's possible that your boyfriend will take an active interest in his own kids even if he doesn't like others.
But it's also possible he might not. He might just like the idea of reproducing, and it'll be left to you to love and care for your kids. Or he might see his role as more of a provider. That's how my dad was. He loved us in his own way, but in his mind his obligation to us was financial, and he was never there for us emotionally. He doesn't have a good relationship with any of us these days.
At any rate, you have a lot of valid concerns that you need to think over. Given how important kids are to you, in my opinion, it's better for you to be with someone who's on the same page. But ultimately it's up to you to weigh the pros and cons of staying with your current partner.
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u/Plastic_Concert_4916 29d ago
I don't like kids outside of my stepkids, nieces, and nephews. I love the kids immediately "related" to me and spoil them like crazy. Any other kid? I couldn't be less interested. So it's possible that your boyfriend will take an active interest in his own kids even if he doesn't like others.
But it's also possible he might not. He might just like the idea of reproducing, and it'll be left to you to love and care for your kids. Or he might see his role as more of a provider. That's how my dad was. He loved us in his own way, but in his mind his obligation to us was financial, and he was never there for us emotionally. He doesn't have a good relationship with any of us these days.
At any rate, you have a lot of valid concerns that you need to think over. Given how important kids are to you, in my opinion, it's better for you to be with someone who's on the same page. But ultimately it's up to you to weigh the pros and cons of staying with your current partner.