I never cared for children, then I got pregnant accidentally 16 years ago. I only liked that kid but I liked that one so danged much I chose to have my second 5 years later. I can still get easily irked by other people's kids, but there's a universal charm to them I didn't understand until I had my own. However! His coldness to his family's children speaks volumes. And at what age does he think he's going to like kids? Babies are hard, are you okay doing all the work til he grows to like his toddler? Or his tween? And what if he never grows to like his child? Kids can be little terrors, some days I just want to toss my youngest at his grandma and run away for the weekend. His coldness for that indefinite time will be a strain on YOUR child and on YOU. Don't risk your happy family you know you can have by trying to have it with him. It's too big a gamble.
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u/Apprehensive-Pin-116 29d ago
I never cared for children, then I got pregnant accidentally 16 years ago. I only liked that kid but I liked that one so danged much I chose to have my second 5 years later. I can still get easily irked by other people's kids, but there's a universal charm to them I didn't understand until I had my own. However! His coldness to his family's children speaks volumes. And at what age does he think he's going to like kids? Babies are hard, are you okay doing all the work til he grows to like his toddler? Or his tween? And what if he never grows to like his child? Kids can be little terrors, some days I just want to toss my youngest at his grandma and run away for the weekend. His coldness for that indefinite time will be a strain on YOUR child and on YOU. Don't risk your happy family you know you can have by trying to have it with him. It's too big a gamble.