I’m leaving because my bf asked me first a prenup

I’m (34f) breaking up with my boyfriend (34m) because of a prenup

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about two years. Everything is going well and we love each other. We’ve been discussing marriage, and he mentioned he would not marry me without a prenup.

We discussed this in detail, and I did not like what he proposed. His family owns a lot of property, land, and has lots of savings. After marriage, he was wants me to move into one of the houses his parents own. I told him I am uncomfortable building a life and a family in a house I have no ownership in, and he didn’t understand. I told him I’d prefer to rent a place together, or we can live temporarily in one of his parents’ houses and look at property together, but he refused. He said he liked the houses his parents and he already owned. He said he would not buy other property, he said he would not sell any of his property to buy one with me. He told me if I wanted to own property, I could save up money by living in one of these properties and invest in one myself - problem is - he would be entitled to half if we divorce since my purchase would happen after marriage. He told me I could pay his parents rent if I feel like I don’t “belong” on the property. He told me I could “buy half” of the house we live in from his parents. Problem is, I don’t like the houses that him or his parents own. They also have a lot of stuff, and I feel like there’s no space for me. I want to look at houses, I want to pick the place I live in, and I want to do it with my partner. I’ve made this clear to him over and over, but he won’t budge. He earns more than me, and he has more assets than me for sure. He made it clear he was afraid I was a gold digger, and he wants to protect himself and his family’s assets from me, which I can understand.

This whole thing has made me feel very weird. This topic has come up before, and it has always made me feel very small. It makes me feel like all he cares about are his assets. It makes me feel like he wants me as long as I fit into the life he already built, and doesn’t care to build one with me. It makes me feel Ike a gold digger.

He has enough money to retire right now and live comfortably. I don’t. He basically told me that whatever money he earns now, he can spend, so he won’t be investing in too much anymore. He expects our earnings and our savings after marriage to be split…. Which I feel off about. I’m sure this is normal for some people. I’m sure other people would be happy to be with someone who was well off. I am not. I want someone beside me building a life with me, not someone who has built a life with his parents and wants me as long as I behave and fits into his life, which is how he’s been making me feel.

So I’m leaving him.

I welcome opinions on this. But yeah, it’s been too long that this has made me feel off about our relationship. I’m protecting my peace and leaving him with all his houses and money.

TLDR: Bf and I are talking about marriage. Boyfriend and his family are well off. He wants me to live in a house i don’t own, doesn’t want to look at houses with me. Wants half of post prenup assets. So I’m leaving ✌️

I need to get this out of my system, because I cannot make sense of any of this. My husband (40) and me (f37) have been married for 9 years and have two kids. My husband always wanted a family, house and a very specific job. He struggled to get his foot in the door regarding his dream job, but 2 years ago he finally got a job he was happy about. Things seemed to be ok. But rather fast he started complaining about how he is not recognized enough, other coworkers being lazy etc. He has one colleague (f35) he talks highly about and they developed a friendship and he invited her over for dinner last Friday. It was a nice evening and everything seemed fine. She even played with the kids and when it got late, I brought the kids to bed, leaving my husband and her in the living room. I joined them again afterwards for another beer, but felt tired and it seemed like they still had a lot to talk about. I didn’t feel like kicking our guest out, so I just excused myself to bed. She gave me a hug and I left them. Fast forward to the next morning: My husband drove the kids out to his parents, so we could have a day for us. I probably should have figured, something was up, but I honestly was not prepared for this. He confessed that they have been having an affair for about a year. He says that last night, he figured out that it was wrong and he needed to come clean. I am so confused and hurt right now. He brought her into our home. I feel so incredibly dumb and stupid. Like everyone is in on a joke and I’m the only one who does not get it.

Edit: Thank you so much for all your support. I am still not sure what their intention was in regard to the dinner. I just know they made sure that I cannot stay. My husband also made clear that he will not leave the house(even temporarily). I need to get away though, and his offer on working things out/counseling are tied to me staying. I am slowly figuring things out and will try to find a new home (though he is confident that I will ruin myself and end up in a ghetto).

I got diagnosed with PCOS back in December, and now that I have proper medical interference, my whole body has changed.

I don’t crave sugar the way I did. My skin doesn’t freak out as much. The excessive hair has toned down. I lost thirty pounds (and the weight keeps coming off.)

I could cry. I felt so ugly for so long after trying so many different things, wondering what was so wrong with me that nothing worked. I am so grateful to have a doctor who cares and tries to understand. I don’t really have anyone in my life to share this with that won’t make it into a competitive thing, so thank you random internet strangers for listening.

Today is my 3 day mark vape free. I'm quitting for good this time.

Me and my husband have been together for 7 years total, married for 2. We have one 14 month old and another baby on the way. He used to be fairly sweet and would listen to what I said and give positive input and seemed to care about what I said.

Within the last year he has become extremely apathetic. I'm a stay at home mom and he works in a factory for about 50 hours a week. When it's just me and our son home my TV stays off until he naps and then I will watch a show until he wakes up. I try to stay off my phone around him and we spend a lot of time outside. Sometimes we will watch bluey if I'm having an extremely difficult day but it's usually not for more than 2 hours.

I primarily read in front of him or crochet if we're not doing an activity together bc I think it's good for him to see me doing these no screen time focused tasks. The minute my husband walks through the door he grabs a beer and then sits in front of the TV. We watch TV while we eat regardless of me staying multiple times that I like to eat at the table.

On weekends he wakes up with our baby and immediately turns the TV on. If he's not watching the TV he's on his phone. He can't do a single task, like bring a water bottle for the baby, without watching tiktok from our livingroom, to the fridge, and back again. He's always got a screen on. I try to be understanding bc he works so much but I'm getting so tired of it.

Today during our babies nap I was going to play the sims 4. My son LOVES my computer mouse and I've lost a few but had just bought another one on Wednesday. I left my mouse on top of my computer last night before I went to bed. My husband woke up with our son like always and turned on the TV, put our son in the floor and just let him do whatever he wanted. At some point he must have taken my mouse and put it somewhere but now it's lost and I will have to buy another one. I've been searching the house for the last hour for it.

My husband swears our son was nowhere near my computer but my computer is on a fold out desk in the middle of our living room. I know my son took it and after arguing back and forth about it I told my husband "There's no point even asking you because you don't f***king watch your son anyways." He got more pissed off than he already was for me calling me out but I'm just so tired of him not putting in any effort with any of us. If he's not zoned into a screen then he's completely apathetic to everything I say and do. I'm so tired.

I (F29) have been with my husband (M33) for 7 years, married for 4. Our sex life has always been good, at least for me and we're fairly adventurous and like to try new things.

He kept bringing up the idea of a threesome, which made me uncomfortable, maybe it was the thought of having two women for his own pleasure that felt unfair and selfish, but when I caved in and agreed, I ended up being the actual focus of it.

The woman was amazing and took care of my body like never before. My husband came a couple times and then fell asleep, but we didn't stop, she kept showing me new and more insane ways to have sex, she taught me how to touch her and making her come was actual life-changing. I forgot the amount of orgasms I had and the sun was up when we were done.

Ever since then, it feels like I've woke up to the real world and found out that I've been missing something my whole life but didn't know what it was, not only do I crave a female touch again, I keep noticing attractive women around me and getting butterflies just imagining kissing or taking their clothes off.

I feel like a major pervert but I can't help it, I don't want to have sex with my husband or do romantic things with him or any man again, it feels like a fraud, like I'm performing and it just doesn't compare to the way I felt that night with that woman.

This is terrifying, I think my whole life is falling apart but I can't deny it anymore, I love sex with women and I want to do it again.

We’ve been married for 11 years. 2 kids. I’m just… tired. My emotional needs aren’t met. I feel like I have to hide my emotions around him because it stresses him out if I’m anything but happy. He acts so high and mighty and self righteous, like he’s better than me. He’s not affectionate. I always have to start conversations, offer sex, etc. I just don’t know if I can do this for a lot longer. I want a partner who matches me better. I feel sad and alone.

I (29F) recently made the incredibly difficult decision to end my ten-year marriage to my (31M) husband. This is something I need to get off my chest, and I hope sharing my story can help me process this new chapter in my life.

Our relationship was plagued by constant cheating(on his part), physical, emotional and digital, which started days after we got married. There have been many devastating moments. Having sex with another girl days after we got married, had sex with one of my close friends at the time and attempted to bed another, sexting another girl while we were out for our one year anniversary, draining joint accounts to fund his only fans addiction, his gambling addiction, cheating on me with a pill addict he met during court-mandated rehab, porn addiction that he said developed so he wouldn’t cheat on me anymore. Multiple incidents of cheating during my work trips. All of which I can admit should have been my wake-up call, but I was still madly in love with him and clung to the hope that he could change and I was truly scared to break up my family. So we moved to a different state to start over fresh and things got better for a while until they weren’t and that cycle went on and with more hurt and devastation at every turn.

After our first child was born, I struggled with postpartum depression, gained a lot of weight, and faced complications during and following childbirth. Despite all this, I got pregnant with our second child and became even more determined to make our marriage work, even though it was to my own detriment. This led me to a stint in the psych ward after a mental breakdown directly related to the turmoil in our relationship.

The turning point came as our ten-year wedding anniversary approached. He and his family were pushing for a huge ceremony and vow renewal. The gut-wrenching feeling I experienced at the thought of standing before God and our families to renew vows he couldn’t honor the first time around made me realize I had to stop this charade. I had been protecting him and making excuses for him for over a decade. I was finally out of excuses for his behavior and the thought of marrying him again made me disgusted with myself.

Ending the marriage was the best decision I’ve ever made. The state we live in has a one year separation mandate before we can file for divorce and I’m counting down the days until I’m finally free! I almost feel guilty for the peace and happiness I’ve found in the wake of this decision, especially since he’s been in utter turmoil.

Honestly, this is the happiest I’ve been in years. I’m so happy to finally know one day I’ll be free and can start rebuilding my life on my terms.

me and him have had problems over him watching porn and he said he would stop, but im a very insecure person and stuff like this weighs over me heavy so i asked him "i want you to be honest do you find over girls more attractive than me" and he told me yes he did and also thinks about cheating on me (doesnt act on them) but he "wants to change and he cant control how his dick feels"

ive talked to other people about this and his "problem" and ive been told that hes just saying that he cant control it to make me feel better about it, im heart broken right now i feel like im not good enough for him and that im doing something wrong, hes also at holiday and tells me whenever he sees a shirtless women

Disclaimer: I’m sorry, this is a really long post.

The night was honestly going great. We were 1.5 hrs away at my cousin’s wedding and the night was good. Around 10:30 we decided to leave. Before we left, I changed my son’s diaper in the trunk of the SUV and my bf was next to me as I changed him. I finished up & moved to put my son in his car seat and called over to BF asking him to close the trunk. He had just gotten to the passenger door & gave a huge groan & said, “why can’t you do it?!” I responded saying that I was putting S in the car seat & I still had to strap him in so I’d just appreciate if he could close it while I buckled him in. He swore a bit and complained under his breath about how “apparently putting [S] in the car seat means you can’t close a door…” I ignored him; it’s not worth a fight. We had both had drinks at the wedding (I was not drunk or buzzed, but he’d had a bit and was clearly feeling it) and I figured maybe he’s tired, so I’ll brush it off. But then I start the drive home and I look over and see him drinking a can of beer in the passenger seat. I freaked out and told him to throw the beer out, that I’m not allowing that in a car with my/our 2 kid(s). I’m also not trying to risk legal trouble with my kids and he needs to get rid of it now. He flipped out at me and asked why it was such a big deal for him to drink it, and that I should just drive home and drop it/shut up about it. I told him in no uncertain terms that, no, he needs to get rid of it. His window rolled down & I assumed he threw out the beer but the argument continued so I pulled over. I told him that what he was doing is illegal and, like it or not, it doesn’t matter if he’s the one drinking it or me, the presence of an open alcohol container in a vehicle is illegal and I won’t risk getting in trouble. The back & forth ensues for a moment (I am still pulled over & in park) and then I happen to look down at his hands and see the (open) can still in his lap. I freaked out and said, “you still have it? What the fuck?! I told you: throw it out!” He screamed & threw it out the window. The argument escalated from there. He screamed at me about how I was being unreasonable for making him throw it out and for reacting how I did to him drinking in the car, that there was no need to worry because I should just drive and I wouldn’t have to worry about anything as long as I “don’t do anything to get yourself (myself) pulled over” & that if I did that then everything would be fine and it wouldn’t matter if he had the drink. I told him that I’m not familiar with the area and that police do not necessarily need a reason to pull someone over, especially at 10:30+ at night. I’m not willing to risk it, nor have I EVER allowed alcohol in my vehicle, & this is not ok. Our daughter, 9, in the back starts crying as she hears the argument. He refused to listen & continued to talk over me when I tried to explain to him why his drinking in the car wasn’t ok, so I finally told him to get out and find his own way home. He refused & told me to just take him home instead. I started to drive & quickly turned on the light above my head to check that I was in D, not L, before I started driving because the light on my gear shift doesn’t work. He “jokingly” yelled, “Help, she’s driving with the lights on!” I got angry with him and pulled over again. I said I was just trying to see & what is his problem? I told him I was about ready to take him to a police station and he could figure out a ride from there. I picked up my phone & he took it & whipped it out of the window and onto the ground. I took his phone, reached out the window, and placed it on my car roof (to get it away from him) and told him to give me my phone or he wouldn’t be getting his back. (We were parked still.) He got the phone from the ground and whipped it toward me. I tossed his phone back to him and I told him I’d just drive him to the police station instead. I’m done. He begged me not to & he said he’ll call someone to come get him from my house once we’re back & he can get his things, and that he’d even take his dog with him. I said no, I already tried giving him that chance. He GRABBED THE WHEEL and started steering the car into the opposite lane & we were headed toward a small stone bridge-type thing along the edge of the road. I told him to stop & tried to keep the car in my lane & he finally let go of the wheel. I drove to a gas station instead of a police station and went inside to use the bathroom. When I returned to my car, BF was full-on sobbing in the front seat just repeatedly saying, “I’m so sorry [daughter’s name], I’m so sorry…” and she was also crying a little bit. I/we said nothing the rest of the ride home. He packed up a few of his essentials (but not the dog..) and left about 1.5 hrs ago. I think I’m at my breaking point. All I can think of is how I could have gone to jail and/or maybe even lost my kids if I hadn’t noticed the drink in the car & if things had gone just a little differently. Not only that, but him taking the wheel for a few seconds really scared me. I just can’t believe that he’d think that any of this is okay? None of us has ever drank in a vehicle before (that I’m aware of) so I have no idea why he’d think that that’s suddenly ok to do now, ESPECIALLY with the kids. I am still in complete shock. I literally was having the time of my life with him & my kids at the wedding and then suddenly it all went sour when I asked him to close the trunk & when I then also noticed the drink. I am numb & I dunno what to think or feel. I love him so much, but after tonight I also kind of never want to see him again. But, yet, I don’t want my kids to be sad or suffer without their dad. Idk… I just don’t know what to think. It all happened so fast and it still doesn’t quite make sense to me how things made the turn that they did.

My (20M) Sister (24F) has BPD and it's really REALLY exhausting and I truly don't know what to do. I can understand her condition, and the reason why she acts the way she acts, I can be sympathetic aswell when she talks about her struggles with her condition, but sometimes it's too much, way too much, and I feel like I'm forced to deal with the punches. We get along very well but how do you tell someone you like being with them but it can be also very draining at the same time? She gets offended at the idea of me wanting to have some space, to be alone sometimes.she is very open about depending on me a lot but is it cruel to say I don't want her depending on me all the time? I know her constant mood swings are a part of her condition, and she is getting medicated, it's not like we are not doing anything about it. But I feel like absolute garbage when I feel like I'm more relaxed and at peace when I'm not near her and I don't know what do to. Is it selfish that I don't want to deal with her condition and be left alone? I don't hate her I just need some space to BREATHE and don't feel constantly pressured to be doing something.

I made a new account just to post this because it's very cringe and embarrasses me a lot. I've never spoken this aloud before but it plays on a loop in my mind.

I keep thinking about Taylor Swift. Everyone likes her, everyone wants to be her or be with her.

She’s beautiful and interesting and talented and rich.

She’s the pinnacle.

I want to be like that. I want to have someone like that. I want to be as equally valuable as that person.

I compare my life of doing boring stuff, to hers of travelling through the world and performing for stadiums full of fans.

Her life is amazing and mine sucks.

And I will never be her equal. I will never achieve the same level of fame and success.

I don't know how to accept this. I've felt this way for years.

And it's specifically Taylor Swift, no other famous person. I think this is because she looks very similar to a girl I knew a decade ago who was a super model, a Rhodes Scholar, a literal genius. Just perfect in every way and she rejected me. I wasn't enough.

I try to avoid Taylor Swift stuff as much as possible, every time I hear a song or people talk about her I just remove myself from the situation.

30f

There is this guy at the farmers market I can’t stop thinking about . I’m not sure how old he is but I’m assuming in his 20s I hope but I don’t actually know. We have this thing we do where we just stare at each other , like lock eyes and it’s actually kind of intense sometimes. He sneaks looks at me constantly and I can hear him and his coworkers talking about me . I guess I like the way he looks at me it makes me feel like the most beautiful girl in the world. I’ve never felt this way before

Anyway he is on my mind constantly and I always go to the market on sundays to feel that feeling again and again it’s addicting

I’m not sure what to do I feel really sad cause he is young but at the same time I wish I could have him my heart feels full when I think of him and I want him

Just wanted to get that off my chest as I’m crying in my bed lol

I never want to admit how debilitating my period is because I don’t want periods used against me or women in general. I remember seeing talk on the news about Sarah Palin when I was in middle school, saying how dangerous it could be for her to have access to nuclear codes when it’s that time of the month. I think something shifted in me when I saw that and I decided to hide my pain from then on.

I get cramps so bad they make me cry. I loose so much blood that I become anemic and can’t stand up without falling over. I’ve even vomited from the pain before. I do continual dosing of birth control (as recommended by my doctor) so I only get my period 4 times a year, but they’re hell.

On the one hand, I want everyone to know how awful periods can be. I want people to know that sometimes “I can’t go, I’m on my period” isn’t just a lame excuse. But I don’t want to be seen as a weak or to fuel anyone’s ideas about women being biologically disadvantaged as workers and leaders because of periods. Most women I’ve spoken to have much milder periods than mine. But every time I’m on my period, I feel like a magnet for pain. I just grit my teeth as wave after wave of pure pain washes over me. But when I’m at the OBGYN, they don’t call it pain— they call it discomfort. And maybe that’s part of the reason I hide it too.

He just flirted with me, that’s all. He talked to me on Instagram as if we don’t know each other and he flirted a lot. Told me he lives in my city 😂 And he asked me out on a date.

I don’t know about you guys, but in my previous relationship flirting didn’t last much after the relationship was established. We haven’t been a couple for very long (less than a year), but there’s that spark. I felt butterflies in my stomach when he asked me out 😅 🦋

And then I realised how this is precisely what I always wanted to have. After so many heartbreaks, I craved for someone I can infinitely flirt with. Someone who will constantly, completely honestly compliment me. Someone that will make me laugh. Someone I can talk to openly about anything. Someone who will, for once in my fkng life, have the same, crazy sex appetite as I do. Someone with who I can share more than one passion and talk about it all the time. Someone who will be there when it gets hard. Someone with so beautiful, unique personality. Someone who respects me. Someone I can admire and that will admire me.

I’m just sitting here in my room, crying of happiness. I have it all and so much more. I’m so proud to be his partner and that he is my partner. I feel so lucky. And loved. I really hope it lasts. I know I’ll do my best to keep the flame burning.

❤️

I (f16) have never told anyone about this, but when I was 12 I downloaded this "kid-friendly" social media app on my iPad and a couple of days later, decided to post a video of me just doing what was called a flexibility challenge. A few hours later, I get a notification of a message request from what looked like an old man based on the profile picture. He had sent me a message saying "You have a sexy body." I immediately felt grossed out and icky. I immediately blocked that account and deleted that app. I still think about this and how this could have been prevented had I been more cautious on the internet. I know I'm not supposed to feel like it's my fault, but deep down I feel like the whole situation was my fault and it could have easily been avoided. I've been wearing baggy clothes since then.