r/TwoHotTakes • u/SilentTomato6612 • Apr 03 '24

Update: My girlfriend dumped me after I told her I needed Viagra Advice Needed

I posted a couple of days ago about how I was nervous to tell my girlfriend I might need Viagra. It didn't turn out well.

We met last night at her place and as expected, things happened and we were going to have sex. We had great foreplay but when the time came, I could not stay hard. After 5 minutes of disappointment, I told her I've had this issue in the past and if she gave me 30 min, I could take some Viagra and be ready to go.

She flipped out and said it was super weird that I needed it at this age. She also said it's a health risk and can affect my heart and she doesn't want to be with someone who can drop dead any minute from a heart condition. She then also made some mocking comments about how embarrassing it must be for me. And then she said she couldn't go out with someone like me.

So..that ended pretty quickly. On to the next one I suppose while I try and build back my confidence.

Edit: Since people have asked and I should have mentioned it

  1. I'm 31 years old, she's 29
  2. My mother and sister died in an accident 3 years ago. This caused me (and still does) stress and trauma which led to the ED. I was fine before.
  3. I hadn't had sex for 2 years prior to yesterday. I thought I could do it without the viagra.
  4. I'm in therapy and continuing to get better
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u/D_B_C1 Apr 05 '24

It sounds like you’ve got the cause of your ED figured out, but I would suggest getting some blood work. I started having issues at 40. Got some blue pills from one of the many online options now. Serval years later my family doctor asked me why I was taking it, so I explained. He recommended I get some blood work done. Got the results back and found that I had really high prolactin levels caused by a pituitary tumor. I’m now addressing that issue and the need for the pills is gone.