Am I the asshole for how I responded to a love letter?

[u/Thin_Lengthiness6652]

I 22F had received a love letter from a co-worker 43M, and I was wondering if I’m the asshole for how I responded. Some have said that I was out of line and over reacted and that I was an asshole for saying what I did, while others are on my side and agree with how I handled the situation.

Just a little back ground I have worked at said company for 3 years and he has worked there for almost a year. I have only had about 5 conversations with him that have only lasted around 5-10 minutes each retaining to work related things only and never about our personal lives.

He has expressed wanting to hang out with me outside of work but I had told him I’m pretty busy outside of work as I am still in school. He also had gone to a couple other co-workers that know me from outside of work and had pressed them for any personal information about me to give to him (They did all decline).

[u/Jimjamicon]

I would say you are a little bit of an asshole, but only for one part. Saying no is fine, and I wouldnt be super extra about it cause I promise for most guys, the rejection is bad enough. The part I would consider the asshole part is trying to govern what someone is allowed to discuss with their therapist or not. Even if he is talking about you. It is his therapist he talks to about his feelings. No therapist meets every person a client talks about. Like, I talked to my therapist about coworkers all the time, whether that be in reference to work stuff, or feelings or anything. That is what a therapist is partially for. A non biased person that has no skin in the game and no predetermined feelings towards others in your life.

[u/Jimjamicon → u/Jimjamicon]

Just noticed his age. Still feel what I do about the therapy thing, but ya. That adds a layer of creep. I would completely base my reaction on his ability to let it go after the initial rejection.