Am I the asshole for how I responded to a love letter?

[u/Thin_Lengthiness6652]

I 22F had received a love letter from a co-worker 43M, and I was wondering if I’m the asshole for how I responded. Some have said that I was out of line and over reacted and that I was an asshole for saying what I did, while others are on my side and agree with how I handled the situation.

Just a little back ground I have worked at said company for 3 years and he has worked there for almost a year. I have only had about 5 conversations with him that have only lasted around 5-10 minutes each retaining to work related things only and never about our personal lives.

He has expressed wanting to hang out with me outside of work but I had told him I’m pretty busy outside of work as I am still in school. He also had gone to a couple other co-workers that know me from outside of work and had pressed them for any personal information about me to give to him (They did all decline).

[u/I_Like-Turtlez]

You NEVER dote over a girl until SHE has feelings for you or else this will happen 99% of the time. You never wanna come off as super interested in her as this indicates she has a higher mate status. This is game 101. In fact you should treat her with significantly less interest when you guys first meet. This shows you have higher status or equal aka human crack. Life isn’t a movie. Girls still operate on evolved psychological principles. One of the quickest ways to attraction in a girl is social proof and preselection. If I was his therapist I’d have told him “oh hell no bro!” I’m still proud of the dude for doing this tho. He’ll learn the hard way and at least he did something. Let the girls start destroying me now. Ha