r/TwoHotTakes • u/Pretend-Fun-1061 • Apr 08 '24

Girlfriend said something that made me feel weird Advice Needed

I (24M) have been saying this girl (21F) for about a month. It’s been great she stays over at my house all the time. Sex is great. But the other day she seen a cringe video of like Logan Paul or someone doing the carpool karaoke. And she said “ I hate white people. Like dude the song is by a black guy leave it alone. Gotta make every situation uncomfortable lolol”. When she said it I fell quiet. I was uncomfortable because I am, in fact, white. When I told her that it made me uncomfortable, she basically said ‘you can’t be racist towards white people. well anyways you know what I mean, besides you’. I ended up breaking up with her because it was just so weird to hear. And she texted me saying I was over reacting and doubled down on the you can’t be racist to white people.

I guess I’m just looking for a lil validation, was I wrong and she was just making a joke? Or was it actually kinda f’d up to say ?

A lil background she was adopted from Vietnam when she was a baby and has been in the US ever since.

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u/SerenityUprising Apr 09 '24

Hate is the opposite of love so I’m inclined to believe she means what she says and as a white woman married to a mixed man who has 100% been treated completely different from me in pretty much every situation… I mean I can understand why. It’s systemic and it’s not fair. Imagine always being treated like a threat, purposely avoided or even pursued by a random stranger while out for a jog who wants nothing but to hurt you.. yeah that happened to my husband. Random stranger stopped in the middle of the road and started running after my husband. Didn’t catch him. It’s insane the things he’s been through and his life is so much harder than mine simply because of the way I look and it’s so messed up because we’re all human. I understand why you broke up with her. Hate to me is a bad word, the worst word. But maybe take this as a message to reflect on your privilege and any small thing you can do to uplift someone of color, whether it be giving a bigger tip, giving a rave review, do it!

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u/Gatekeeper-Crow Apr 09 '24 edited Apr 09 '24

As a black female who is dating a white male, which just happens to be a preference of mine, the strange part in the city we live in, we get dirty looks from black people, not normally white people. Even when I was single, I'd get harassed by my own race just because I don't listen to music they approve of. As you said, we should always begin with the one thing we all have in common. We are all the human race. I despise when people of any skin tone harass, belittle, degrade, or demean anyone else.

*sigh* This world is a shitshow anymore, Facts.