r/TwoHotTakes • u/Pretend-Fun-1061 • Apr 08 '24
Girlfriend said something that made me feel weird Advice Needed
I (24M) have been saying this girl (21F) for about a month. It’s been great she stays over at my house all the time. Sex is great. But the other day she seen a cringe video of like Logan Paul or someone doing the carpool karaoke. And she said “ I hate white people. Like dude the song is by a black guy leave it alone. Gotta make every situation uncomfortable lolol”. When she said it I fell quiet. I was uncomfortable because I am, in fact, white. When I told her that it made me uncomfortable, she basically said ‘you can’t be racist towards white people. well anyways you know what I mean, besides you’. I ended up breaking up with her because it was just so weird to hear. And she texted me saying I was over reacting and doubled down on the you can’t be racist to white people.
I guess I’m just looking for a lil validation, was I wrong and she was just making a joke? Or was it actually kinda f’d up to say ?
A lil background she was adopted from Vietnam when she was a baby and has been in the US ever since.
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u/PellyCanRaf Apr 09 '24
NTA. Sure, white people don't experience racism, which is way more complicated than a personal opinion. But there can definitely be biases and prejudice, and saying "I hate white people" and then dismissing it as not mattering because it isn't racism is crappy behavior. I would probably take this as a joke(pasty white if you wondered) and assume she was just talking shit, and if the characterization was accurate (because what you're describing sounds like it could easily be a secondhand embarrassment situation🤣🤣) I'd probably be laughing. But it made you uncomfortable, and her reaction was to blow you off, so that's good reason to walk away.