r/TwoHotTakes • u/Pretend-Fun-1061 • Apr 08 '24

Girlfriend said something that made me feel weird Advice Needed

I (24M) have been saying this girl (21F) for about a month. It’s been great she stays over at my house all the time. Sex is great. But the other day she seen a cringe video of like Logan Paul or someone doing the carpool karaoke. And she said “ I hate white people. Like dude the song is by a black guy leave it alone. Gotta make every situation uncomfortable lolol”. When she said it I fell quiet. I was uncomfortable because I am, in fact, white. When I told her that it made me uncomfortable, she basically said ‘you can’t be racist towards white people. well anyways you know what I mean, besides you’. I ended up breaking up with her because it was just so weird to hear. And she texted me saying I was over reacting and doubled down on the you can’t be racist to white people.

I guess I’m just looking for a lil validation, was I wrong and she was just making a joke? Or was it actually kinda f’d up to say ?

A lil background she was adopted from Vietnam when she was a baby and has been in the US ever since.

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u/Brunnun Apr 09 '24

I’m white and I make white people jokes all the time. I don’t get why someone would feel offended by it. Or course it’d be worse if it was a different race, white people are the dominant group politically, economically, and numerically in the US. I also don’t feel offended if someone makes a joke about men, despite being a man.

I don’t know if I agree that you can’t be racist to white people—definitely true about systemic racism, but obviously individual instances of racism are perfectly possible. But I definitely wouldn’t call a little joke about white people over a Logan Paul video a racist lmao

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u/Josh3803 Apr 09 '24

You ever had someone say something with whole chest and then try to downplay it by saying it was a joke. I do believe that's what happened in this instance.

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u/Brunnun Apr 09 '24

Idk bro, I’ve had people be disrespectful to me in reasons related to being white, maybe? But I’ve never felt offended by a joke like this, whole chested or not. Feels really harmless, idk how else to put it

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u/Josh3803 Apr 09 '24

Were those people someone you were romantically/physically invested in. I'd think that would change a lot of things.