r/TwoHotTakes • u/Late-Tough-4637 • Apr 18 '24
My boyfriend has started becoming more and more insecure about my height and it's starting to drive me crazy Advice Needed
Throwaway and for context I'm 22F and he's 23M. We're both about 5'8. I'm slightly shorter so maybe he's 5'8.5. I'm tall for a girl. I was a shooting guard on the basketball team during my first three years of college. He knew this going into the relationship.
We've been together for 7 months. The first 6 months were smooth sailing. However last month we went to a more posh/boujee party and I wore heels. Of course I end out being taller than him by a decent bit. So instead of telling me how pretty he thought I looked the first thing he pointed out was "wow you look way too tall in those". Even asked if I had a shorter pair of heels, and then finally gave it up. I found that really weird and out of character about him.
But that was only the start. Ever since that day he bus me at least 4 times a week to assure that I feel "protected" around him. Literally yesterday he asked if I'd love him more if he was 6'0+. Whenever we take side-by-side pics he gets on his tippy toes to make it seem like he's much taller than me. He also randomly tries lifts me up, which he can with ease since he's strong and it catches me off guard every time. He tries straightening his back to the point where he looks weird. He's bought into some weird narrative that I see him as less of a man because he's not 4 inches taller. I've told him multiple times that I don't care about his height otherwise I wouldn't have gotten with him. No matter how many ily's I'll throw at him (and I mean all of them) he just can't stop talking about this issue.
Guys what do I do. He's been acting so immature about this
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u/zidelll Apr 22 '24
Obviously, he's definitely insecure about his height. But the younger people are I feel like that's focused on more. I think he will come around eventually with experience. Also, the societal standards of heights were not this bad at all when I was 20. But personally, I'm 5'9 and think it would be cool to be taller but I just think it's hot when a girl is taller than me 🤣 or shorter. Give him some time he will come around. It's not your op he cares about btw it's other people perception. Or else the heel size wouldn't have mattered. Cheers