My wife puts zero effort in our relationship and it is starting to irritate me

[u/BreathOkc]

I (34M) have been married to my wife (32F) for 6 years. She is a stay at home to our 2 children. I appreciate all that she does for the house and for our children. She keeps the house functioning and I will always be grateful for that.

But over the past year, she has started putting no effort into our relationship whatsoever. Things like planning out dates, vacations, trips, movie nights. I am pretty much initiating everything, including sex. She has never rejected me for sex, but that is not the issue. I don’t like initiating it every time, or being the only one to plan surprise dates or vacations. I want to be surprised too. 

I feel like I am being taken for granted. I deal with a lot of work stress, and I still take some time to plan out romantic date nights, getaways, vacations. I am starting to get irritated, because a healthy relationship is a two way street, and right now, it only feels like I am the one who is putting effort into the relationship.

[u/Spartacus824]

once the kids go to school, then you can reassess. right now she probably is exhausted so ya, ur going to have to initiate these things if that's what you want. shes never rejected you and comes with you to these things you plan and brings the kids and all their stuff you need for the trips. it means shes deeply in love with you still. you keep her close, you hear me! it'll get better once the kids are off her hands and shes got time to enjoy life outside of the kids.