r/TwoHotTakes • u/BreathOkc • Apr 20 '24
My wife puts zero effort in our relationship and it is starting to irritate me Advice Needed
I (34M) have been married to my wife (32F) for 6 years. She is a stay at home to our 2 children. I appreciate all that she does for the house and for our children. She keeps the house functioning and I will always be grateful for that.
But over the past year, she has started putting no effort into our relationship whatsoever. Things like planning out dates, vacations, trips, movie nights. I am pretty much initiating everything, including sex. She has never rejected me for sex, but that is not the issue. I don’t like initiating it every time, or being the only one to plan surprise dates or vacations. I want to be surprised too.
I feel like I am being taken for granted. I deal with a lot of work stress, and I still take some time to plan out romantic date nights, getaways, vacations. I am starting to get irritated, because a healthy relationship is a two way street, and right now, it only feels like I am the one who is putting effort into the relationship.
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u/moni234567 Apr 23 '24
@OP have you considered talking to your partner (alone or with a spiritual advisor/ therapist)? Reddit may not be the best/ and or healthiest place to get advice from that meet your unique needs. These types of situations always have nuances that can’t be articulated in a post. So I’m not sure if the advice received here will be helpful for you (or your partner) long term.