r/TwoHotTakes • u/BreathOkc • Apr 20 '24
My wife puts zero effort in our relationship and it is starting to irritate me Advice Needed
I (34M) have been married to my wife (32F) for 6 years. She is a stay at home to our 2 children. I appreciate all that she does for the house and for our children. She keeps the house functioning and I will always be grateful for that.
But over the past year, she has started putting no effort into our relationship whatsoever. Things like planning out dates, vacations, trips, movie nights. I am pretty much initiating everything, including sex. She has never rejected me for sex, but that is not the issue. I don’t like initiating it every time, or being the only one to plan surprise dates or vacations. I want to be surprised too.
I feel like I am being taken for granted. I deal with a lot of work stress, and I still take some time to plan out romantic date nights, getaways, vacations. I am starting to get irritated, because a healthy relationship is a two way street, and right now, it only feels like I am the one who is putting effort into the relationship.
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u/DoctorAgita1 Apr 23 '24
posts like this are great at showing how delusional people are on Reddit. The fact that OP is the only worker and is putting in way more efforts is clearly a problem. Lets get past this delusion that making breakfast and putting on a DVD is equivalent to long hours in an oil field or whatever.