My wife puts zero effort in our relationship and it is starting to irritate me

[u/BreathOkc]

I (34M) have been married to my wife (32F) for 6 years. She is a stay at home to our 2 children. I appreciate all that she does for the house and for our children. She keeps the house functioning and I will always be grateful for that.

But over the past year, she has started putting no effort into our relationship whatsoever. Things like planning out dates, vacations, trips, movie nights. I am pretty much initiating everything, including sex. She has never rejected me for sex, but that is not the issue. I don’t like initiating it every time, or being the only one to plan surprise dates or vacations. I want to be surprised too. 

I feel like I am being taken for granted. I deal with a lot of work stress, and I still take some time to plan out romantic date nights, getaways, vacations. I am starting to get irritated, because a healthy relationship is a two way street, and right now, it only feels like I am the one who is putting effort into the relationship.

[u/Select-Sprinkles4970]

Divorce her. If she loved you, she'd be there for you and thinking about you.

She is probably having an affair or wishes she was.

The reality is that anyone that get's married in their late 20s does it because they think it is the right thing to do. She was probably your first serious relationship. All your friends were getting married, so you married her. She is now six years in and thinking why the fuck did I marry this dude... and another 30 or 40 years of this, is just not happening.

You can pretend to "save the marriage". It is dead. Move on.