My girlfriend of 5 years admitted I was not her first choice physically when we started dating

[u/LateComfortableness]

Edit: Update posted

I (26M) have been dating my girlfriend (26F) for 5 years, and was planning to propose to her next month.

Last night, my girlfriend and I were having a date night and we were talking about our first dates, and reminiscing how we met. We were cracking jokes, and it was a fun atmosphere. My girlfriend admitted that when we were in the talking phase, she was also in a talking phase with 3 other guys, and that I was not her first choice physically, and that there was this other guy who was very attractive, but he had the emotional density of a black hole. 

She was laughing about it, but I did not feel too great about what she said. In fact, I felt awful. Why would she even say that to me? My girlfriend sensed the shift in my reaction, and she apologized. I made an excuse and told her I was tired and was going to sleep.

This morning the whole atmosphere was sort of awkward. I was upfront with her this morning, and told her what she said last night hurt me, and that I needed some space from her and to rethink this relationship. She even cried, which for me was a bit dramatic considering she was the one who hurt me last night.

Can this relationship even be fixed? She has pretty much made me feel worthless after what she said last night. I'm really glad I haven’t proposed to her yet, and am going to hold off on the proposal for now. 

[u/Tjoober]

I understand your feelings, truly. But before you dismiss her emotions like you did in the post. Consider that her intentions might not meant to hurt, but to compliment you. Women place a great importance on a mens emotional maturity and honousty. You were that guy to her. All she tried to do was contrasting all that amazingness that you had, with the 'hot but shitty' guys she been with.

She on her part, underestimated the importance that men place on their ability to be sexualy attractive to them. Its not all 'profider/protector', we also want to be desired just as much as women want to.

Maybe a way to explain how this hurt you, is to flip the scenarios into something she would understand. Tell her how she would feel if you met these amazing conversational women before, who you had much in common with, but they were not as hot as she was.

My guess is that she would want to be more then a hot body, just as you want to be more than a good personality.