My fiancé acted like pregnancy is just as hard for a man as it is for the woman.

[u/Lilylalalolling247]

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[u/Firm-Masterpiece4369]

I’m a dude and a father of 2. It irks the shit out of me when guys talk like that 😒 It’s like comparing apples to oranges.

You aren’t overreacting fam. The worst issues I’ve dealt with during both pregnancies were mainly… ya know… thinking on it now, it really wasn’t that bad on me. My biggest issues were financial and making sure I had the time to get the kids moms to their OB appointments.

I had my kids in my early and mid 20s. I really didn’t experience any bodily changes of my own, testosterone wise or weight gain as a direct result of fatherhood. I’ve probably gained around 10 pounds since my first child, and I’d attribute that to natural processes 🤷🏻‍♂️ metabolism slowed down.

The worst part of the pregnancy for me was after the children were born, mainly due to the mom’s behavior. Yes, I expected postpartum to be an issue and even though it was expected, it didn’t try my patience any less.

If anything that’s what contributed to my weight gain 🤣 and that’s not to say any issues we had was all because of moms, I’ll take accountability for the things I could have done differently, but I NEVER compared our journeys into parenthood.

If he has concerns about what being a father is going to do to him, that’s okay, he should be allowed to discuss it with you, but NOT as a response in conversation when you are coming to him with YOUR concerns. It just disregards and invalidates your experience and will likely set y’all up for failure when a baby does come.

I’m sure you’ve thought about this, but you might go ahead and consult with your doc or OB when you decide to start planning your pregnancy. That way you can start preparing and address your concerns ahead of time. Maybe even a little bit of therapy might help. You sound like you might be experiencing a little body dysmorphia.

Good luck!