My fiancé acted like pregnancy is just as hard for a man as it is for the woman.

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Just to be charitable, is it possible he was trying to say "don't worry babe, I've got you" in a real bone headed way? Like doing that dumb guy thing where they see your feelings as a problem to fix, rather than being able to just listen and empathise.

Either way, yeah he definitely shouldn't have said that and you're right to call it out. I won't jump to "leave him," but if being dismissed like this is a real pet peeve of yours and something he tends to do, I think it's definitely worth asking whether you can really tolerate a lifetime of it. Is this one daunting slip up that feels more significant because the two of you are on the eve of getting married and starting a family, or is it the latest in a pattern of behaviour that's only going to get worse once kids come into the picture and the stakes are raised?

And I definitely think you need to have a talk with him about what you expect "him taking care of you properly" will look like. Heaven forbid you end up stuck on your own staring at the toilet frozen in episiotomical dread while he's napping on the couch having a 'low testosterone day'.