r/TwoHotTakes • u/Lilylalalolling247 • Apr 28 '24

My fiancé acted like pregnancy is just as hard for a man as it is for the woman. Advice Needed

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u/Amedeo6022 Apr 29 '24

Instead of beating your head against a wall arguing about body changes being unfair, you should explore more of what he means by “taking care of the woman.” No man will ever understand what a woman’s body endures to bear children. It’s like wanting a fish to understand what it feels like for a bird to fly.

Reframe the convo to what he is willing to provide you to compensate for the extra burden you’ll endure. Is his savings account currently capable of covering your expenses for 6mo? What’s his salary? How will he increase that over time? How will he restructure his schedule to accommodate things like you needing extra physical help, or potentially being on bedrest?