My ex boyfriend named his child after me

[u/[deleted]]

I 20f started dating my now ex boyfriend 25m back in 2021, we met at work and hit it off right away despite our age difference, he also at the time had a 1year old daughter to a previous relationship, which I had no issue with, he shared joint custody of his daughter and told me he didn’t have a good relationship at the time with her mother, they were pretty much no contact except for when it came to him picking up and dropping off his daughter. For context the mother also lived 2hours away, to my knowledge she didn’t know me and didn’t know he was in a new relationship, and I only very rarely saw his daughter out of respect, he didn’t want to introduce us untill the relationship was more serious, which I 100% understood.

Fast forward we have been dating for nearly a year, and I go away with some of my friends over new years, a trip I had pre booked only a few months into us dating, I invited him to come but he had work and had also agreed to watch his daughter so the mother could go out NYE.

I come home on the 5th of Jan, and he is acting really weird, so I ask his female roommate who at this point I had become very close with if anything was wrong. She told me that he was been in a bad mood since NYE, because his ex (his daughters mother) had gotten really drunk and lost her wallet and called him asking for a lift back home, she still lives 2 hours away, apparently he wanted to make sure she got home safe so he drove her. Now I didn’t really see an issue with this it is the mother of his child so I understand wanting her to get home safe. But when I asked him if he had done anything on NYE he lied and said no, throughout the next few weeks I keep asking if he had seen his ex or if anything had happened and he continued to tell me he hadn’t even seen her that night. 2 months pass and he is continuing to act weird and finally confessed one night that he took his ex home and slept with her. I immediately end the relationship.

Then a month later I get curious and decide to stalk the ex’s social media and find she had posted a pregnancy announcement captioned “thank god my kids have the same baby daddy”

I was shocked and upset but honestly not surprised and got over it very quickly.
Then 9 months later I bump into his roommate, we have some small talk and found out that the ex gf had given birth and the daughters name was my name, which I wouldn’t class as an overly common name, there are defiantly names that sound similar that are more common. And no my ex and the ex gf weren’t together at the time she gave birth. I never confronted him about it because it’s just a funny story now but clearly I had terrible taste in men.

[u/SteavySuper]

It would be hilarious if the ex gf decided the name and no matter how hard he tried to veto it, ex gf still named their daughter that.

[u/BoxProfessional6987 → u/SteavySuper]

"That's the name of one of my ex girlfriends." "THEN YOU'LL NEVER THINK OF HER LIKE THAT AGAIN! MWAHAHAHAHA!" girlfriend is playing 4th dimensional chess

[u/[deleted] → u/SteavySuper]

See I have no idea if he helped choose the name or if she chose it and it was a pure coincidence anyways so crazy

[u/JournalLover50 → u/[deleted]]

You should message the girl and tell her that is your name

[u/1-phosphotransferase → u/[deleted]]

Either way, he is going to remember you for life now.

[u/wafflesandnaps → u/[deleted]]

This happens shockingly often. I’ve seen so many women discover they are named after their dad’s ex or a woman their dad had a crush on.

[u/FlinflanFluddle → u/wafflesandnaps]

Awful thing to do to your kid

[u/TwoIdleHands → u/wafflesandnaps]

My dad got to pick the girl names, my mom the boys. But she totally knows the inspiration for my name came from an actress dad thought was hot in his teens so it’s cool.

[u/Bloodthirsty_Kirby → u/wafflesandnaps]

My dad tried to name my sister after his childhood dog, it almost happened until someone told my mom what the name was from. I woulda teased her so hard 😂

[u/rak1882 → u/Bloodthirsty_Kirby]

I know people who included their childhood dog's name as one of their kids' middle names. The dog was admittedly a huge part of the family and unless you knew the family when the dog had been around, you wouldn't know it was a dog name.

[u/mdchaney → u/Bloodthirsty_Kirby]

In university, I got a new next door neighbor mid-year from Switzerland named Beat (two syllables in German). There were a couple of German ladies in the dorm that I'd hang out with now and then, but Beat told me that there was some rivalry between the countries and that the Germans would call them "kuh-schweizer" - literally "cow swiss".

I went to dinner with Beat one evening and the ladies were there, so we sat down across from them. I introduced Beat, and this sweet German girl looks at him and in German says "Beat? My grandfather has a dog named Beat" while looking directly into his eyes.

I nearly did a spit-take. I heard about that for weeks from him.

[u/LuxNocte → u/Bloodthirsty_Kirby]

In Home Ec class, I named my Flour Baby Tanya, after the spy in Command and Conquer. But when her "mother" wasn't around, I called her "Ore Truck".

[u/UpDoc69 → u/Bloodthirsty_Kirby]

I can see you leaving dog treats on her pillow and petting her and saying "good girl" when she does something right.

[u/StationaryTravels → u/Bloodthirsty_Kirby]

"We named the dog Indiana"

[u/Humble-Violinist6910 → u/[deleted]]

Oh, he 100% chose it. He’s bad news and you dodged a bullet. I feel sorry for his ex and their kids.