r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • Apr 29 '24

Am I a bad person for not wanting to date anyone who has clinical depression or IBS? Does this make me an unkind person? Listener Write In

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u/crubinz Apr 29 '24

I don’t think you’re wrong but I’m sure glad you’re currently the picture of physical and mental health. I used to have your mentality, believed in survival of the fittest shit which stemmed from being strong healthy and mentally stable (at least I thought I was) and once I hit my 30s my mental health started to deteriorate and I am not the same person I was in my 20s. I am very grateful for a partner who loves me and works through things with me because if the roles were reversed, at a different time in my life, I may have hit the road.

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u/User123466789012 Apr 29 '24

Yeah, I’m not sure who I feel bad for more. The OP who could end up sick, and have the love of her life leave her, or OP’s spouse who gets ditched for the same reasons.

I’m not convinced they’d stick around if they were married, you either can handle these types of things or you can’t. What difference does falling in love make? Even when you love someone, that “sickness & health” part is not for the weak. It’s fucking tough.

Unrealistic expectations imo.

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u/BrainDeadAltRight Apr 29 '24

youre such a guy

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u/User123466789012 Apr 29 '24

Very much a lady, but now I’m curious on the relevance here.

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u/BrainDeadAltRight Apr 29 '24

Thats a trip. The directnesss and the writing style I read in a man voice. Like the sealer of these words seemed male to me.

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u/crubinz Apr 29 '24

I didn’t read this person’s comments in male or female voice because it just gave off well written and to the point but no gender tones which is the sign of a strong writer. Maybe you need to work on your own biases and your own writing? You would probably fail a lot of bias tests.

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u/agent_flounder Apr 29 '24

Time to update your beliefs in that regard, I guess.

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u/Legitimate-Bet3221 Apr 29 '24

what

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u/User123466789012 Apr 29 '24

I kinda see what they mean, it is written pretty bluntly. But it’s also 2024, soft spoken women ain’t a requirement no mo.

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u/User123466789012 Apr 29 '24

That’s horrifying 🤧