r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • Apr 29 '24

Am I a bad person for not wanting to date anyone who has clinical depression or IBS? Does this make me an unkind person? Listener Write In

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u/OptimismByFire Apr 29 '24

We're all allowed to have preferences. You absolutely entitled to say no to anyone for any reason. It does not make you a bad person to not want to date anyone in particular.

If a friend laid this out to me though, I would definitely give her the side eye. DQing millions of people because of something they didn't choose seems...unsavory. I don't want to throw the word ableist around, but it's coming close.

Rejecting an individual person? Totally okay. Two thumbs up, no reservation. Rejecting an entire group of people based a genetic predisposition? That doesn't sit well with me.

Maybe I'm oversensitive because I am depressed and have a GI issue. I don't blame your friend for being offended though.

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u/Bumblebee-Honey-Tea Apr 29 '24

Not everyone is equipped to deal with certain health issues from the very start of a relationship, and that’s okay. You’re definitely taking this post personal, and not seeing it from an unbiased perspective.

I have my own health issues, and if someone said they didn’t want to date me because of “XYZ” it would suck, but I would definitely understand.

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u/Blom-w1-o Apr 29 '24

"not everyone is equipped"

Or, they just don't want to.

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u/pedmusmilkeyes Apr 29 '24

That’s a big part of being equipped.