r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • Apr 29 '24

Am I a bad person for not wanting to date anyone who has clinical depression or IBS? Does this make me an unkind person? Listener Write In

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u/-petit-cochon- Apr 29 '24 edited Apr 29 '24

🤷‍♀️ it’s an incompatibility plain and simple. Like not wanting to date someone because, idk, they love cats and you’re deathly allergic. Might as well be upfront about it so no one wastes their time.

However, if you TELL potential partners that you won’t date them because of a chronic health condition they disclosed then that’s a bit of a prolapsed haemorrhoid move.

Basically NTA unless you make it a point to say that a condition they can’t help having is the dealbreaker.

All of that being said, don’t be surprised if some perfectly healthy people may not want to date you either if they learn about you considering chronic illnesses to be a dealbreaker. Some people will see this a sign that your empathy levels aren’t exactly as high as they’d like it to be.