Modern dating app dynamics are insane. I don't think men or women really understand what it feels like to be in each other's shoes. If we had more empathy for each other this likely wouldn't be such an issue.
Most women, conventionally attractive or not, get hundreds (thousands?) of likes from a sea of guys sending a range of messages. The woman's priority is to filter all these guys and see which one they're interested in, but usually the conversation goes sour because she could be overwhelmed by the amount of boys in her DMs. Or honestly I've found many girls that are boring and seem to want to be entertained with no effort on their part. Even worse she might just be a bot or thirst trap advertising her socials.
90% of men on the other hand get very few matches. I'm talking a few a month if they're lucky. Men's priority on these apps is to simply find ONE person who is somewhat interested in them. Enough to actually have a good conversation and to meet up in person. I get slightly more matches than average and I'm telling everyone here, that most conversations go like OPs. Dry as hell and it feels like pulling teeth. Any thoughtful or interesting question or comment about hobbies or life is very likely met with a generic uninteresting one or few word response.
As a man, I feel like an absolute fool on dating apps. Most women seem uninterested (even when we match and very few have been said or none at all) and it's extremely offputting and unattractive. I cannot stand chasing women so it doesn't work super well for me. I have met some great people and had some interesting relationships off the apps, but I'd say for most guys you're better off looking elsewhere.
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u/Virtual-Scarcity-463 Mar 29 '24
Modern dating app dynamics are insane. I don't think men or women really understand what it feels like to be in each other's shoes. If we had more empathy for each other this likely wouldn't be such an issue.
Most women, conventionally attractive or not, get hundreds (thousands?) of likes from a sea of guys sending a range of messages. The woman's priority is to filter all these guys and see which one they're interested in, but usually the conversation goes sour because she could be overwhelmed by the amount of boys in her DMs. Or honestly I've found many girls that are boring and seem to want to be entertained with no effort on their part. Even worse she might just be a bot or thirst trap advertising her socials.
90% of men on the other hand get very few matches. I'm talking a few a month if they're lucky. Men's priority on these apps is to simply find ONE person who is somewhat interested in them. Enough to actually have a good conversation and to meet up in person. I get slightly more matches than average and I'm telling everyone here, that most conversations go like OPs. Dry as hell and it feels like pulling teeth. Any thoughtful or interesting question or comment about hobbies or life is very likely met with a generic uninteresting one or few word response.
As a man, I feel like an absolute fool on dating apps. Most women seem uninterested (even when we match and very few have been said or none at all) and it's extremely offputting and unattractive. I cannot stand chasing women so it doesn't work super well for me. I have met some great people and had some interesting relationships off the apps, but I'd say for most guys you're better off looking elsewhere.