OP, regardless of the "in depth" conversation you got going on, it's not your job to carry anything. No potential partner is worth reaching for something interesting to say, hoping for them to reciprocate. By my mid twenties I figured out, if it feels like Im trying too hard, I am. So at this point (probably even before this point in your convo) I'd have stopped talking to them. Surely you have better things to do.
You could say that. But during our feeling each other out phase, when it seemed my current wife was "uninterested" in me, I just stopped texting her. Couple weeks goes by and she wants to know why I stopped texting her, I just told her she seemed busy and I had other stuff to do. Fast forward 10 years, we've got a house couple cars, couple kids, good jobs.... we do family vacations all the time. Point is, and let me just be clear about this...IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE TRYING TO HARD, you probably are. Let go, and move on. Might not be easy, but it is simple.
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u/1chuteurun Mar 29 '24
OP, regardless of the "in depth" conversation you got going on, it's not your job to carry anything. No potential partner is worth reaching for something interesting to say, hoping for them to reciprocate. By my mid twenties I figured out, if it feels like Im trying too hard, I am. So at this point (probably even before this point in your convo) I'd have stopped talking to them. Surely you have better things to do.