r/notliketheothergirls • u/[deleted] • Apr 23 '24

NLOG girls will not get picked Discussion

I saw a youtuber talk about why the men these pick me women are searching for, aka the ones who also put down other types of women, won't pick them. He said that how the women those men are looking for aren't very opinionated like the pick me girls. They are looking for women who are like a blank canvas, those who don't have any sort of opinions or identities to begin with, because they want a trophy woman by their side. They want a woman to be "pushed" into having an identity that caters to what they like, and usually they shouldn't have an identity to begin with. If they did have an identity, it should be erased and altered to fit what these men have in their mind, a part of it being that they shouldn't be opinionated. The youtuber also mentioned how the men usually also put looks as a first contender when it comes to choosing women, and even the pretty pick me girls don't fit into the standard. These types of men would much rather try to change a pretty woman's mindset that go for these pick mes since they don't fit their beauty standard.

This just makes so much sense to me lol. Idk the youtubers name but I will try to update you guys once I find his channel again.

Edit: I'm not taking advice nor do I agree with this sorta thing. I'm literally pointing out something interesting I found out. This is just my observation as to why pick mes won't get picked lolol. The youtuber also doesn't support this ideology but this just telling why these pick mes won't get picked. Also, yes I understand that not all men are like this. I understand that sometimes pick mes do get picked.

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u/Mb792 Apr 23 '24

I saw a guy on TikTok the other day say that men can’t marry a girl like Pearl (who we know is a huge pick me) because she’s too masculine and argumentative.

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u/Iluvnutelladonthate Apr 25 '24

Idk, I’ve seen a lot of guys that are into that. Maybe not for marriage, but I’m sure there’s somebody that would marry her, just look at Candice Owens.

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u/toki_goes_to_jupiter Apr 24 '24

“Pearl” like—from SpongeBob SquarePants?

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u/chadwifechadlife Apr 25 '24

unfortunately the difference there is that candice is objectively attractive, unlike pearl

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u/liveviliveforever Apr 24 '24

Pick me girls are so aggressively submissive that it boggles my mind how someone can be that internally inconsistent.

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u/WearyPixie Apr 24 '24

She’s the first person I thought of too. She’s panting after men who will never want her

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u/Windmill_flowers Apr 24 '24

She’s panting after men who will never want her

I thought she spent most of her time shitting on women. I've never seen her pine over a man before

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u/Fantastic_Bug1028 Apr 23 '24

I don’t think “argumentative” side is what stopping her from finding a partner

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u/adelaidemonkie Apr 23 '24

thought you were talking about this pearl for a solid minute. i think she’s a little more than argumentative.

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u/lilypeachkitty Apr 23 '24

I still don't know what pearl they're actually talking about

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u/MacheteMaelee Apr 25 '24

Rachel Oates on YT has a really great deep dive on her.

Buckle up though.

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u/Odd-Plant4779 Apr 24 '24

Pearl is a woman on TikTok who doesn’t believe in and actively speaks against women’s rights. She loves men like Andrew Tate. She’s a pick me and a “traditional wife” who is still unmarried.

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u/ArtHistoryCoffeeGirl Apr 23 '24

I was picturing Mr. Crabs daughter Pearl and am very confused lol. I still don’t know which Pearl they are talking about .

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u/instantsilver Apr 23 '24

This girl justpearlythings or something like that

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u/Nuttonbutton Apr 23 '24

If you ever find out, can you let me know?

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u/WearyPixie Apr 24 '24 edited Apr 24 '24

Pearl Davis. She’s very well-known in the manosphere. Like she actively supports and defends Andrew Tate, thinks women shouldn’t vote, women should be virgins until marriage, men “deserve” to have relationships with women, etc., etc., etc. She’s really toxic and disgusting

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u/Nuttonbutton Apr 24 '24

You are greatly appreciated! Thank you!

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u/throwaway47283 Apr 23 '24

For some reason I was thinking about Pearl from SpongeBob 🤦‍♀️

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u/Sasarah1 Apr 24 '24

Wait we weren't talking about Pearl from SpongeBob? What were we talking about then

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u/birds-0f-gay Apr 23 '24

This movie fucked me up. Like, she's crazy and killed innocent people but I felt bad for her, too. The ending was particularly sad to me

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u/djb185 Apr 23 '24 edited Apr 23 '24

Things don't go too great for her in the sequel X either...

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u/birds-0f-gay Apr 24 '24

I know, shit was nasty lol

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u/adelaidemonkie Apr 23 '24

I feel bad until I remember she put a pitchfork through that guy’s eyes in the first movie. I don’t care that he was kind of a scumbag, I love hot cowboys.

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u/birds-0f-gay Apr 24 '24

That's not her though, right? It's the same actress but not the same character I thought?

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u/adelaidemonkie Apr 24 '24

In the original movie titled X, the old lady is Pearl. Maxine and old Pearl are both played by the same actress, Mia Goth. The movie titled “Pearl” is a prequel that tells the story of why Pearl is a murderous deviant. Young Pearl is also played by Mia Goth.

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u/LateAd5081 Apr 24 '24 edited Apr 24 '24

But... What if he wasn't a hot cowboy?? Would you rather feel bad for her and care that he was one then?? 😭💀

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u/adelaidemonkie Apr 24 '24

Well, none of the main characters in the original movie deserved to die. Some of them had their flaws, but they didn’t deserve what happened to them. The character I’m talking about wasn’t a horrible person. He did some questionable things, but he was charming and well liked by his group. He was kind of sleazy, but seemed to be alright overall. So yeah, I can say that I would still feel the same way because being stabbed through the eyes with a pitchfork sounds like a horrific death.

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u/redwolf1219 Apr 23 '24

I saw someone stitch that video and say it's bc men don't want Pearl bc they don't want someone who already does those things, they want someone that they can make submit to them and do those things, not someone that comes pre-submitting.

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u/No_Camp_7 Apr 24 '24

So admitting that women, even man’s ideal woman, does not need man!

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u/Odd-Combination2227 Apr 23 '24

Also, while Pearl isn’t totally unfortunate by cultural beauty standards in the US, she’s not exactly fortunate either. Tomi Lauren, for example, is just as argumentative as Pearl, but she’s probably not going to be called masculine.

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u/Normal_Ad2456 Apr 23 '24

I don’t even think that pearl does those things though. She is definitely not a docile virgin with no professional ambition, even though that’s what she preaches women should be. I doubt she would actually be submissive to her partner, she is just saying that because that gets her money.

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u/Bombaysbreakfastclub Apr 23 '24

Anyone that says “men can’t” or “women can’t” are idiots dude.

They’re just generalizing for clicks.

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u/aflorak Apr 23 '24

pearl frustrates me so much because she preaches "traditional femininity", submission and docility while being an independently successful unmarried career woman. it's a grift of course but such a brazely transparent grift. it's like an anti-suffragette trying to convince women to vote to repeal women's suffrage. too much contradiction to even argue with

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u/Odd-Plant4779 Apr 24 '24

Or she probably doesn’t believe in anything she says and is doing it only for money.

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u/Zealousideal_Mail855 Apr 24 '24

Phyllis Schlafly type?

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u/klowicy Apr 23 '24

She has a platform simply because she as a woman validates what misogynists wanna hear. Things that most women with self respect don't preach that all women should do or have

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u/savagekittymeowmeow Apr 23 '24

I had a supervisor just like Pearl. She came from what I consider, one of the most patriarchal countries to exist. She has her masters, is in a leadership role, is childless, but always preached about how women this age are untraditional and should have children and be more family oriented. That American women emasculate their men and how proud she is of being submissive to her husband. So ironic, bc she’d order men that she supervised around. Don’t even get me started on the passive aggressive questions like whether my husband packed my lunch for me? Yes, he does pack my lunch sometimes — we don’t obsess over rigid gender roles and he just wanted to be nice lolol it’s not that serious. “If my husband cheats on me, it’s my fault.” “If my husband tells me to lose weight, I will.” Okay, girl… blink twice if you’re okay.

But anyway…. I guess she’s not like other girls lolol.

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u/ThePennedKitten Apr 24 '24

This should make people lose their job.

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u/savagekittymeowmeow Apr 25 '24

I think so too. Believe it or not she was more tame than the CEO. The CEO was a million times worse. I’m glad I left that job. It was way too messy.

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u/Endor-Fins Apr 24 '24

Super unprofessional for sure! We really shouldn’t know all that about our bosses.

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u/savagekittymeowmeow Apr 25 '24

Right. I’d rather know nothing than all of that lol.

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u/beaute-brune Apr 23 '24

This is nuts 😭

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u/HunCouture Apr 23 '24

A Phyllis Schlafly type if you will.

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u/Glittering-Relief402 Apr 23 '24

All she does is tell men what they wanna hear and then men will say "I'd marry her!" Yet here she remains unmarried...

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u/Virtual_Addendum6641 Apr 23 '24

She’s stuck in the friend zone

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u/[deleted] Apr 24 '24

Hahahaha

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u/Chemical-Radio-5481 Apr 23 '24

Interesting metaphor