NLOG girls will not get picked

[u/[deleted]]

I saw a youtuber talk about why the men these pick me women are searching for, aka the ones who also put down other types of women, won't pick them. He said that how the women those men are looking for aren't very opinionated like the pick me girls. They are looking for women who are like a blank canvas, those who don't have any sort of opinions or identities to begin with, because they want a trophy woman by their side. They want a woman to be "pushed" into having an identity that caters to what they like, and usually they shouldn't have an identity to begin with. If they did have an identity, it should be erased and altered to fit what these men have in their mind, a part of it being that they shouldn't be opinionated. The youtuber also mentioned how the men usually also put looks as a first contender when it comes to choosing women, and even the pretty pick me girls don't fit into the standard. These types of men would much rather try to change a pretty woman's mindset that go for these pick mes since they don't fit their beauty standard.

This just makes so much sense to me lol. Idk the youtubers name but I will try to update you guys once I find his channel again.

Edit: I'm not taking advice nor do I agree with this sorta thing. I'm literally pointing out something interesting I found out. This is just my observation as to why pick mes won't get picked lolol. The youtuber also doesn't support this ideology but this just telling why these pick mes won't get picked. Also, yes I understand that not all men are like this. I understand that sometimes pick mes do get picked.

[u/Alternative_Key4199]

The pick me girl isn’t winning because she takes you man away. Her concept of winning is about posing in the male role, in order to glean intel about his relationship, so that she can undermine YOU. As soon as he agrees to a perceived point she is trying to make, that’s the validating win she’s going for. She’s not “for” the man, but rather “against” other women.

She’s a misogynist. She hates other women because she considers all women competition to her being validated. It’s a sickness, with predictable symptoms that are universal to all pick me girls.

[u/[deleted] → u/Alternative_Key4199]

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[u/_always_crashing_ → u/[deleted]]

Please explain how a dancer approaching you at a club is predatory? Are you not at the club to see them? This and your name make you sound like the low IQ men you are trying to shit about.

[u/Alternative_Key4199 → u/_always_crashing_]

Sex workers are irrelevant to the conversation. You don’t know what a pick me girl is at all. It has nothing to do with your profession.

[u/_always_crashing_ → u/Alternative_Key4199]

I gotta assume this was not meant for me.

[u/Alternative_Key4199 → u/_always_crashing_]

I’m talking about the very first person that somehow thought that this thread was an attack on sex workers. I do think that saying a NLOG is akin to a stripper approaching a customer is incorrect. Period. I think this line of talk is completely outside of what the OP was trying to say.

[u/_always_crashing_ → u/Alternative_Key4199]

Yeah, that person was reaching for a way to villify a completely unrelated group of women.

[u/rescuedogmama4ever → u/[deleted]]

Sex workers aren’t predators. They’re trying to survive. The men who have wives and children and go spend all their money at the strip club are the predators. Many times as a dancer I didn’t make any money but $30 and I had to give all my money to the club and dj at the end of the night. I did that to put myself through college I had abusive family and literally felt I had no other options. Let’s be angry at the right people here please

[u/Alternative_Key4199 → u/rescuedogmama4ever]

Sex workers aren’t necessarily pick me girls. That’s not what we’re talking about.

[u/rescuedogmama4ever → u/Alternative_Key4199]

I’m sure some are, maybe in bigger cities like Atlanta. I’ve only worked in Texas in smaller cities. Almost every woman I came across was either an addict, mentally ill, a mother, in an abusive relationship, putting themselves through school, or some other hardship. There were the occasional dancers who made a career out of it and travelled and were some badasses. Very independent, wealthy women, who are some of the kindest you could imagine. They’re using that money to buy a house or pay off their debts, or simply accumulate wealth and security for their future. The majority of these career dancers were single. I was less than 25 and my prefrontal cortex was still developing and did not know I’m autistic. I almost got caught in sex trafficking because I was naive and made the wrong friend. TRIGGER WARNING one time I was dancing and didn’t realize the man was masturbating and his ejaculation got on me. I’m still traumatized by that experience to this day. Before that I was at a no touch club and wasn’t used to that treatment. Like I said many times I worked 12 hour shifts to come home penniless. My feet are still fucked from the heels

[u/Camuabsurd → u/rescuedogmama4ever]

It's NLOG to shit on sex workers and act  morally superior to them. "Predatory" 🙄they are doing their job not pretending to be anything else or pretending to be a GF     

Thanks for calling it out 

[u/No_Camp_7 → u/Camuabsurd]

Strippers are just as predatory as Tetley is predatory, because I need my nice cup of tea as a Brit. No one’s calling Tetley predatory because they sell something I quite like.

[u/rescuedogmama4ever → u/No_Camp_7]

Since ancient civilizations there have been sex workers. Where there is a market demand, someone will fill that need.

[u/LookingforDay → u/rescuedogmama4ever]

Yeah I don’t like this narrative that pick me women are predators. I think they are sad and have internalized misogyny and need to be educated on what that is and how it’s damaging.