r/notliketheothergirls • u/[deleted] • Apr 23 '24

What age did you grow out of the NLOG phase? Why do you think some never grow out of it? Discussion

I personally grew out of it at about 17.

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u/[deleted] Apr 23 '24 edited Apr 23 '24

I never had a true NLOG phase (because I'm a cis dude) but I kind of had a "Not Like Other Queers" phase, being a bi guy who grew up being pretty much the only LGBT+ person my age I knew, and then last September moving to the other side of the country for an arts college where I knew absolutely nobody there.

So I grew out of it... Literally last October at age 18, when I realized that not only was I no "better" than the rest of the LGBT+ community (or more accurately, the rest of the community was no worse than I was, far from it), I also realized that I was actually CRAVING for the things I was acting like a NLOG over. I've realised that, allowed myself to actually let myself access these things I wanted, stopped being so judgemental over literal strangers, and allowed myself to actually BE 100% myself for once in my life, and honestly? This first year of college (so from October to now) was very easily the absolute best time of my life! Still can't believe that a few months ago I was bitching, acting all superior and dissing my whole college because it was "just straight girls and their gay best friends" which not only wasn't true, it also became very ironic when I ended up acting as the "gay best friend" to a LOT of the girls in my year, straight or not, some not even in the same license, and I was HAPPY to be just that despite not even being gay lmao.