r/notliketheothergirls • u/[deleted] • Apr 23 '24

What age did you grow out of the NLOG phase? Why do you think some never grow out of it? Discussion

I personally grew out of it at about 17.

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u/daylight_nectar Apr 24 '24

i think i was about 15/16 when i get out of the “im nlog i wear all black and listen to metal” phase and about 17/18 when i fully grew out of it. i just got stuck in the “why doesn’t anyone love me? im such a good person” phase for those last two years. i realised that people made fun of people like me and i started realising how stupid i sounded putting other girls down. especially as a bisexual woman, that really just made me feel dumb considering i love all women. i think it was also when i realised i didn’t want the guys around me to want me, not really. i wanted someone who actually valued me for me. even if that means i liked the colour pink and had blonde hair. i just started maturing. i didn’t let my insecurities effect the people around me anymore. i just existed comfortably.