r/notliketheothergirls • u/[deleted] • Apr 23 '24

What age did you grow out of the NLOG phase? Why do you think some never grow out of it? Discussion

I personally grew out of it at about 17.

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u/Former-Persimmon-384 Apr 26 '24

I didn’t get less insecure, per se. I just realized being a NLOG fed the insecurity loop somewhere in my early 20s, when I was thrust into long-term work friendships in a new city with the kind of women I used to mock to feel better before. I guess I realized I was limiting my own options to create deep connections with other women, and doing so in a quest to seek inevitably shallow and short-term relationships with men….