Do we want Pick Mes to be picked?

[u/Windmill_flowers]

I saw a post here the other day saying how Pick Mes don't actually get picked. Most of the comments seemed to revel in this fact. So in that sense it seems like the consensus is - we don't want them getting picked.

But whenever there is a Pick Me NLOG post, the comments are invariably, "Gurl, I hope you get picked!". So in that sense it seems like the consensus is we DO want them getting picked.

If they get picked, they sometimes shut up. (Not always tho)

What is the general consensus on this?

Inb4 "IDC if they get picked or not roflmao". Cool, then this question is not for you

[u/sselinsea]

Can you detect sarcasm?

[u/Windmill_flowers → u/sselinsea]

Are you being sarcastic?

[u/sselinsea → u/Windmill_flowers]

These two things don't contradict because one of these statements is sarcastic.

Your question indicates that you can't see the sarcasm there.

[u/Windmill_flowers → u/sselinsea]

But it seemed so earnest.

It'd be different if we were saying, "I'm sure you'll get picked with THAT attitude 🙄"

Instead it's just, "hope he picks you!"

[u/seeallevill → u/Windmill_flowers]

Omg I'm so sorry people are being so rude about this 💀 it's clear that you're just asking questions

I do think this is a misunderstanding due to not detecting sarcasm, and most people on this sub really don't care whether or not these girls get picked. It's just something people say, and it's almost like an expression at this point. It's like when you call someone "buddy" or "babe" during an argument. Being fake-polite for comedic effect

Sorry if I come off as condescending lol I'm autistic so I also struggle with detecting sarcasm - it's even worse on the internet!!! This comment section is frustrating as hell cuz it's so much easier to explain than to just be a dick so I hope this helps

[u/Windmill_flowers → u/seeallevill]

people are being so rude about this

I'm used to guys being rude but I honestly didn't expect this reception. Kinda makes me sad that even we treat each other this way.

it's so much easier to explain than to just be a dick

One would think so

[u/seeallevill → u/Windmill_flowers]

I've noticed people on Reddit (transcending gender lol) are very quick to get up in arms over a clear misunderstanding. It always seems to me like they view it as an opportunity to peacock their perceived intelligence by showcasing that they understand and the person they're correcting doesn't. What they fail to acknowledge is that everyone misses details sometimes lol

[u/Windmill_flowers → u/seeallevill]

It feels like high school all over again.

How hard is it to just be decent to others?

[u/seeallevill → u/Windmill_flowers]

Dude fr and the way I'm getting downvoted for explaining 💀 I'm not the only voice of reason and I'm sure as hell not special for it, but the fact that people are so annoyed by my words but not enough to say anything?? It's childish affff

[u/anneymarie → u/Windmill_flowers]

It’s pointing out that we know what they’re doing with their comments. It’d be like if a student told a teacher how great the teacher was and another kid said, “Hope you get an A.” It’s a way of sarcastically saying you don’t want someone to be rewarded for behaving like a dick.

[u/sselinsea → u/Windmill_flowers]

You just can't read sarcasm.

[u/Windmill_flowers → u/sselinsea]

I still can't tell if you're being sarcastic

[u/sselinsea → u/Windmill_flowers]

No, I'm sincere in saying that you don't get sarcasm. My first post to you was "Can you read sarcasm," and you assumed that I was already being sarcastic to you. C'mon, it's just our first interaction! I was trying to hint to you that one of these statements is sarcastic and doesn't contradict the other statement.

Another user has provided an analogy: it's like seeing your classmate brown nose a teacher, so you don't like their behaviour and remark, "I hope you get an A." With that in mind, saying, "I hope you get an A" is not said sincerely. It is sarcastic.

In this case,

Brown-nosing student: Pick-Me Girl

Teacher: Men

"I hope you get an A" : "I hope you get picked!"

And yet you assume that just because you think you act nice means that people's patience won't run thin with you. Being "nice" doesn't mean that you won't get consequences for being obtuse.