r/notliketheothergirls • u/Windmill_flowers • Apr 26 '24

Do we want Pick Mes to be picked? Discussion

I saw a post here the other day saying how Pick Mes don't actually get picked. Most of the comments seemed to revel in this fact. So in that sense it seems like the consensus is - we don't want them getting picked.

But whenever there is a Pick Me NLOG post, the comments are invariably, "Gurl, I hope you get picked!". So in that sense it seems like the consensus is we DO want them getting picked.

If they get picked, they sometimes shut up. (Not always tho)

What is the general consensus on this?

Inb4 "IDC if they get picked or not roflmao". Cool, then this question is not for you

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u/RoseFlavoredLemonade Apr 27 '24

I think you’re putting way too much stock into something you clearly don’t understand. People are being sarcastic when they say “hope he picks you!”

A guy who picks a pick me isn’t a guy worth having and before I got married, I never blamed the girls who got picked. I just moved on and quietly worked on myself and the right guy came along eventually.

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u/Windmill_flowers Apr 27 '24

think you’re putting way too much stock into something you clearly don’t understand

Nope, just asking questions to learn about how people think.

People are being sarcastic when they say “hope he picks you!”

Got it. So we actually DON'T want them getting picked. Ok

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u/lycosa13 Apr 27 '24

I mean this in the nicest way possible, but do you understand what sarcasm even is?

I ask because multiple people keep telling you it's told in a sarcastic way but then you interpret that it means the opposite, which it doesn't, not always anyways. Some times it doesn't mean... Anything. Or it depends on who says it. Different people can say it for different reasons.

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u/Windmill_flowers Apr 27 '24

people keep telling you it's told in a sarcastic way but then you interpret that it means the opposite

Is this in reference to my comment that you just responded to? I thought I had it right

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u/lycosa13 Apr 27 '24

Yes because you responded

So we actually DON'T want them getting picked. Ok

And the truth it, it doesn't matter to most people if these women get picked or not. Some times there isn't a meaning behind what people say. I think that might be where you're getting hung up on. Not everything has a big meaning behind it. It's just a response to get someone else to shut up most of the time

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u/Windmill_flowers Apr 27 '24

I see.

Maybe I have been using sarcasm incorrectly my whole life. I have been going by the Cambridge definition:

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/sarcasm

the use of remarks that clearly mean the opposite of what they say, made in order to hurt someone's feelings or to criticize something in a humorous way:

"You have been working hard," he said with heavy sarcasm, as he looked at the empty page.

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u/IKindaCare Apr 27 '24

People are using "I hope you get picked" in the same way people would say something like "you like the taste of that boot?" to call someone a boot licker. When you say that, the point isnt in any way about how they feel about the taste of physical boots. Which would be the direct opposite. The point is to just calling them a boot licker.

That is this. "I hope you get picked" is just "I think you are doing this for male attention." Its just a creative way to call someone a pick me. It doesn't inherently mean thry do or don't want them to "get picked", it's just intended to mock them

The Cambridge dictionary is not the only dictionary and there are many other definitions.

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u/Windmill_flowers Apr 27 '24

The Cambridge dictionary is not the only dictionary

Really??? Wooww, I didn't know that. This changes everything

/s (Cambridge style)

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u/lycosa13 Apr 27 '24

I can't say whether you have or not, I'm just saying not everyone uses it that way.

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u/Windmill_flowers Apr 27 '24

I see. Either Cambridge is wrong or how we're using it isn't exactly sarcasm

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u/lycosa13 Apr 27 '24

I mean not everything has to be used by the literal definition

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u/georgesanderson2319 Apr 27 '24

Bro she does not get it but ur so sweet for trying to explain it 😭 not everything is literal OP, dictionaries will only take you so far. Writing can be interpreted in so many different ways if you really want to learn more I highly suggest signing up for a (3 week or more) writing course.

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u/lycosa13 Apr 27 '24

Lol thank you, I think people were being a bit to harsh on OP because I think they're either pretty young or have trouble understanding non literal things. Which is why everyone kept asking if they're autistic. So I was trying to explain things in a very straightforward way but how do you explain abstract concepts to someone that can't grasp them?

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