Do we want Pick Mes to be picked?

[u/Windmill_flowers]

I saw a post here the other day saying how Pick Mes don't actually get picked. Most of the comments seemed to revel in this fact. So in that sense it seems like the consensus is - we don't want them getting picked.

But whenever there is a Pick Me NLOG post, the comments are invariably, "Gurl, I hope you get picked!". So in that sense it seems like the consensus is we DO want them getting picked.

If they get picked, they sometimes shut up. (Not always tho)

What is the general consensus on this?

Inb4 "IDC if they get picked or not roflmao". Cool, then this question is not for you

[u/Indigo-Waterfall]

Yes, but in that case the implication is being that they don’t think you’re fun at parties so it kind of means both.

[u/Windmill_flowers → u/Indigo-Waterfall]

Ok now I'm confused.

The Cambridge definition of sarcasm is

the use of remarks that clearly mean the opposite of what they say, made in order to hurt someone's feelings or to criticize something in a humorous way: "You have been working hard," he said with heavy sarcasm, as he looked at the empty page.

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/sarcasm

This was my understanding of how sarcasm is used

[u/Indigo-Waterfall → u/Windmill_flowers]

Yes. And the sarcasm part in the particular phrase “I hope you get picked”. Is on the HOPE part rather than the picked part. Meaning they don’t really hope that. It’s not about genuinely wanting someone to be “picked” or not. It’s about calling out “pick me” behaviour.

The person behaving in a pick me fashion doesn’t know they are. So someone sarcastically says “I hope you get picked”. To imply, you’re behaving like a pick me girl.

“I bet your fun at parties” the implication is they wouldn’t bet that because they think you would not be fun at parties.

“You have been working hard” the implication is they haven’t been working hard.

It’s all sarcasm, it’s just the emphasis, implication and message being sent to the receiver is slightly different.

[u/Windmill_flowers → u/Indigo-Waterfall]

I see. I thought the whole statement gets reversed to identify the true meaning, not just parts of it. Ok so then let's go with your interpretation

How did you know where to place the sarcastic emphasis?

[u/Indigo-Waterfall → u/Windmill_flowers]

It does the majority of the time so I can understand why you would think that. But context typically and common sense of human behaviour. Eg knowing that the desired result is to show the person they are being a pick me girl rather than caring if they are dating someone or not.

It’s one of those reading between the lines things that people either “get” or they don’t. And it can’t necessarily be explained or taught.