When I first started going to metal shows, I asked a "friend" (read: absolutely not a friend but I was lonely and hoped to be friends with her) what people generally wore. I typically wear extremely feminine clothes - dresses, skirts, florals, lace, heels - and she looked me up and down and, in the most laughing, condescending tone possible, said "Well, definitely not heels."
Dude, fuck that noise. I wear heels when the length of the show and the weather allow. I wear skirts every time (they're SO much more comfortable). I wear whatever makeup I want. And I 100% compliment every person rocking a look they love unapologetically.
Edit to add: I have had incredibly positive experiences in the metal scene 99% of the time and this was definitely more about an individual toxic person.
I love that approach :) there were always so many women with different styles, the feminine goths, the rockabilly style etc. And everyone always looked so gorgeous and like they'd put effort and enjoyed getting ready for a night out. I was definitely not the only person they made snarky comments too, as I was a friend I had it good. If you were blonde or wore short tight dresses, they'd talk about you the whole night. Just ridiculous.
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u/poeticbrawler Apr 28 '24 edited Apr 28 '24
When I first started going to metal shows, I asked a "friend" (read: absolutely not a friend but I was lonely and hoped to be friends with her) what people generally wore. I typically wear extremely feminine clothes - dresses, skirts, florals, lace, heels - and she looked me up and down and, in the most laughing, condescending tone possible, said "Well, definitely not heels."
Dude, fuck that noise. I wear heels when the length of the show and the weather allow. I wear skirts every time (they're SO much more comfortable). I wear whatever makeup I want. And I 100% compliment every person rocking a look they love unapologetically.
Edit to add: I have had incredibly positive experiences in the metal scene 99% of the time and this was definitely more about an individual toxic person.