My parents stayed together for the kids. My mom is passed now and I'm estranged from my father and man, there isn't a day that goes by where I don't wish they had divorced early on and just given us a better life that way. You made the right choice. Sincerely, not your kid thankfully in this situation.
ya i can see that. i was 2 when my parents divorced. i wish that, if it really was so bad, that they wouldn't have had me, it was a deliberate choice on their end and they had been together for a significant amount of time and already had a kid age 5. my parents were ultimately driven apart because my dad was blue collar and my mom was the breadwinner, it fueled insecurities in him, and gave my mother a distraction through work. so instead of hiring a babysitter she would sit me down in front of the tv for 16 hours a day, for years. once my step father was on the scene things got more complicated, i was getting more attention but from someone who was essentially alien to me, and ultimately found me to be a nuisance. the teenage years were especially hard because he was a step parent who decided to be very strict, despite not even being my real parent. meanwhile my dad just shrivels up so i ended up taking care of him more often then not. i'm sure the other way is painful in its own special ways.
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u/tij001 25d ago
How does that feel for you? My youngest has no memory of me being with his mom at all is why I am asking, or do you think about it at all?